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Member # 106528
posted 03-26-2013 01:32 PM
Hi, I have a question about orgasms...I'm a 19 year old lesbian, and I'm totally capable of coming through masturbation (usually by rubbing my clitoris on a pillow or whatever), but I've never managed to come with a partner...the thing is, I've read about the g-spot and stuff, but I've never gotten pleasure from being penetrated. I've had several different sexual partners who've fingered me without getting me off, and in fact, I've never even been able to entirely insert a tampon correctly, which I *think* is part of the whole "not liking penetration" thing.
I used to show symptoms of PCOS so doctors definitely examined my reproductive system and never, as far as I know, discovered anything anatomically wrong with me... So could it be that I just can't orgasm through penetration, and should just focus on other means? Is it even A Thing/possible to be totally incapable of coming in that way? Or am I just doing it "wrong" somehow?
That Strange CT child
Member # 104246
posted 03-26-2013 04:24 PM
If the majority of nerves arent actually anywhere other than areas accessible without penetration then you likely dont feel anything unless the specific nerves on the outside are stimulated
Member # 103815
posted 03-26-2013 05:09 PM
Great questions, by the way! Orgasms are a common topic discussed on this website, and in fact, we have a ton of resources to choose from! Here are some that I managed to find relating to your situation: Sexual Response & Orgasm: A Users Guide The Great No-Orgasm-From-Intercourse Conundrum I Can't Orgasm From Intercourse And It's Ruining My Relationship! With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every Body I hope that you are able to find your questions answered in at least one of these articles, but if not, feel free to post them here, and a moderator will be most happy to assist you then. Thanks for using Scarleteen!
Member # 44405
posted 03-26-2013 05:40 PM
And no, there is nothing wrong or abnormal about not being able to orgasm through internal stimulation. If you find penetration generally undesirable or uncomfortable, then I wouldn't stress it at all. My girlfriend is much the same way, so penetration is simply not part of the repertoire for her, and neither of us finds it a problem. All should be negotiable with your partner.
Hopefully the resources provided for you will help. Mine is just my two cents from a personal perspective.