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Member # 95603
posted 11-01-2012 06:06 PM
So last year out of nowhere I began freaking out about pregnancy obsessively despite being on the pill for around 2 years, I'd put off having the implant as the procedure seemed painful and hated the thought of something foreign in my arm so continued with the pill until 3 weeks ago when I got the implant fitted at my local sexual health clinic as I kept on missing pills (never had sex if I did), found out I was lactose intolerant a while ago so everytime I vomitted or had "the runs" I was scared it would affect my pill so me and my boyfriend just never had sex and we had such a good sex life before all this happened But anyway yes got the implant and it wasn't as bad as I thought it was. Was happy and relaxed for about 2 weeks then my implant felt bumpy and I FREAKED. I went to the clinic the next day and the nurse checked it (she pushed down and felt it all) and said it was fine, it hadn't snapped or anything and was common for it to happen and it would still be effective. But for some reason I've been obsessively checking my implant to check its still there and hasn't snapped, I keep thinking its just going to snap and I'll end up pregnant. And its not just that, my friend said her sister in law got pregnant off the implant and I just felt like crying it got me so scared, I thought the implant was going to help my pregnancy scares but nope. I felt fine until this week I just want to stop being scared and RELAX. I can't tell if I'm overly paranoid or overly safe. Can anyone help? To be honest just wanted to let it all out I'd feel so stupid saying all this to someone face to face
Member # 3
posted 11-01-2012 06:38 PM
Okay, so here's the big thing to know:
Someone is ALWAYS going to know someone -- or know someone who knew someone who knew someone -- who became pregnant while using or claiming to use a given method. That's because NO single method is 100% effective. It's also -- and even more so -- because HOW people use methods matter. To boot, a lot of people will say they were using a method they really were not. That all said: the implant is one of the most effective methods there is, and all you need to do to keep it that way is to replace it when -- after years -- it's time to do that. That said, backing up any or every method with condoms is always a great idea. It's a great idea because no other method can help prevent infections, but also because it can give you extra peace of mind, even with a method that is highly unlikely to fail. So, how about adding condoms as a backup? And if you still feel freaked, even with that, we can also talk about if having the kind of sex that presents a risk of pregnancy -- even one so very, very, very small -- is what you really think is right for you right now. Sometimes freakouts about pregnancy aren't entirely about pregnancy, but can be about other related issues, like relationships not being right, underlying anxiety, feeling like someone doesn't really want to be having the kind of sex they are, etc.
Member # 95603
posted 11-01-2012 07:08 PM
Thanks for the reply.
I agree,when I was on the pill another friend said her sister got pregnant and it just made me feel so upset. I used to suffer from severe anxiety its calmed down a lot but for some reason whenever I hear anything about pregnancy or whatever I just freak out or anything medical or health related for that matter so it isn't just pregnancy, my boyfriend knows about this and is understanding just the problem we have with condoms is we both find it very uncomfortable which is why I went on the implant as I've heard its the most effective BC out there, I just feel I need to trust bc a bit more and I have a feeling the side effects of the implant won't be helping my anxiety either.
Member # 3
posted 11-01-2012 08:21 PM
Are you sure you both know how to use condoms correctly? A lot of people don't. For instance, many people don't realize that for condoms to feel great, extra lube -- not just the smidge that comes on some condoms -- tends to be a must-have.
The implant is progestin-only, so really shouldn't be amping your anxiety chemically (especially if the pill didn't have that side effect).