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Post A Reply Login Name: Password: Message Icon:                                                                       Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled. [QUOTE]Originally posted by September: [QB] So your problems in communication, do they lie with you not knowing the answers, or with having a hard time telling him the answers? If it's the latter, what do you think you feel when he asks you those questions. Embarrassment? Shame? What is holding you back from talking? One thing that comes to mind is that it sounds like when this sort of negotiation happens, it is coming from him and happening in the heat of the moment. So one suggestion that I have is that you change the dynamics of that a little and have a more two-sided conversations about this, away from the context of the bedroom. Being dressed and not being in the middle of sex may make it easier for you to communicate yourself, and if you are BOTH talking and BOTH sharing your wants and needs, it's more of an equal exchange and you may feel less like you are being put on the spot. Also, I'd not assume that he will judge you for the the things you like. He is asking, after all, which implies that he WANTS to hear what you are interested in. [/QB][/QUOTE]

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