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Member # 3
posted 05-26-2012 09:22 AM
It's been Masturbation May, and before the month is out, I'd like to do a blog post on Scarleteen about it.
I was just going to write out a list of all the reasons we as an org think masturbation is awesome, but I thought it'd be even better if we could have some quotes from some of you in our community about it, too. So, if you masturbate, what are the things that you think make/have made masturbation such a great thing in your sexual life?
Member # 25425
posted 05-26-2012 09:35 AM
Awesome topic! I am sitting here with my partner, so I read the question to him and we talked about our experiences.
For me, masturbation offered a safe space, where I did not have to live up to anyone's expectations or give in to any pressures. I was sexually abused at a young age, and also started questioning my sexuality early in my teen years, so I often felt very vulnerable in sexual situations with other people. Masturbation gave me the opportunity to explore my own body and pleasure at my own pace. Here's what my partner has to say: "For me the great thing about masturbation is that it allows me to give myself one of the best feelings in the world without needing anybody's permission or contribution. And it's free " [ 05-26-2012, 09:36 AM: Message edited by: September ]
Member # 41657
posted 06-02-2012 12:19 PM
At a young age, I picked up the idea that masturbation was something shameful, and that idea has been the bane of my existence, a shadow over my life that has caused or worsened serious mental health issues, and made it harder to have a healthy relationship with my partner: If I had not been taught there was something wrong with it, my life would have been much happier thus far, my relationship with my boyfriend would have been better, I would have probably done a lot more of the things I wanted to do with my life by now, because I wouldn't have spent my teenage years believing that there was something evil deep within me that I was too much of a coward/weak/selfish to cut off at the root.
I know you might not want to print this because it's not a very cheerful comment, but I think that's the best explanation I can come up with of just how harmful it is to shame/punish/prevent/prohibit masturbation, which is something that everyone has the right to do because everyone owns their own body, masturbation is something human and animal, something that soothes the body and mind without dulling them, a reminder of the goodness within us, like a carpenter's delicately crafted chair or a stained glass window, like a surgeon's precision or a meal rich in flavour and texture, it is one of the many amazing, wonderful things we can do with our hands.