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Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 05:57 AM
I had anal sex with my girlfriend and I came inside of her. She wiped it in the correct direction, away from the vagina. Problem is, she did not went to the toilet to "clear it out" afterwards. We went for a walk afterwards and there are discharge from the vagina and also watery from the ***. She was wearing her underwear. Is there any changes of pregnancy? Can the environment in the anus sustain life to the sperm? Help!
Saffron Reimi
Member # 49582
posted 04-05-2012 06:13 AM
Anal sex does pose pregnancy risks, yes. While it’s true that pregnancy cannot occur from the act of anal sex by itself, and that the risk of pregnancy from anal sex is considerably less than the risk from vaginal intercourse, the anus and the vaginal opening are very close together. It’s easy enough for ejaculate (even when ejaculation occurs inside during anal sex) to run down and into contact with the vulva which then presents a pregnancy risk. Additionally, anal sex has a high chance for the spread of STIs. So, it's a pregnancy risk, but a low pregnancy risk. It's up your partner if she is okay with that low risk or if she wants to take emergency contraception. More info on emergency contraception is here:Emergency Contraception
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 06:16 AM
So there's a very low risk, as low as pregnancy without penetration?
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 06:42 AM
Also, she washed the inside of her vagina when she got home less than 1 hour later, and she's off her pills less than 1 month.
Saffron Reimi
Member # 49582
posted 04-05-2012 06:44 AM
Your penis does not need to be inside her vulva for you to have a pregnancy risk. Any time your penis and vulva make contact at all, there is a risk of pregnancy. If you had ejaculated onto her vulva, that would have been a higher risk, yes. However, as you ejaculated inside her anus, there is still a low risk as the ejaculate can run down from her anus and make contact with her vulva, causing a low risk.
Saffron Reimi
Member # 49582
posted 04-05-2012 06:49 AM
Washing the inside of a vulva (the vagina) cannot do anything to prevent a possible pregnancy and can cause vaginal infections. The vagina cleans itself naturally, and does not need to be washed. If your partner is worried about the low risk you've had, I'd advise taking emergency contraception. In many places, EC can be bought over-the-counter from pharmacies. Would your partner like some help finding EC nearby?
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 06:59 AM
So I believe the risk is too small to be worried about?
Saffron Reimi
Member # 49582
posted 04-05-2012 07:31 AM
It's always tricky with questions like this, because it's more about how you feel. Whether or not a low risk worries you is something that's very individual and up to you. I can only tell you it's a low risk. Is your partner worried about this low risk? Have you had a talk about it together? [ 04-05-2012, 07:32 AM: Message edited by: Saffron Reimi ]
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 07:37 AM
We've talked about it together. If the risk is very low then there's almost nothing to worry about. I know that chances of pregnancy without penetration is almost nil, which is almost the same as this case. Right? There is no vaginal penetration at all.
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 04-05-2012 07:56 AM
As Ray said above, vaginal penetration is not strictly necessary for pregnancy to occur. The highest risk of pregnancy is through unprotected vaginal penetration when no birth control is used. However, pregnancy *can* occur when there is contact between a bare penis and bare female genitals, which include the anus. The risk increases when there is ejaculation. It is a myth that unprotected anal sex is a good option if people are trying to prevent pregnancy. The most important thing here is how your partner feels and what she wants to do. It is her body. yes, there is a low risk of pregnancy. If she's willing to take that risk and not get emergency contraception, that's up to her. Since there has been a risk, we do suggest that she take a pregnancy test 14 days after the risk occurred. I see that you mentioned that your girlfriend had been on the Pill but is not now. Am I understanding this correctly? The fact that she's been off it for less than a month doesn't have anything to do with whether she's protected from pregnancy. The effects of the Pill do not linger. Looking to the future, what do you think about using condoms for anal sex from here on out? There are other reasons to do this besides pregnancy prevention. As Ray mentioned, unprotected anal sex is a risk factor for STI (sexually transmitted infection) transmission. As well, the tissues of the anus and rectum are delicate, and can be prone to just general infection or irritation from penetration.
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 08:07 AM
I think she just had her period right now. It's almost a month after her previous period.
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 04-05-2012 08:28 AM
It's pretty hard to estimate fertility based on when someone had their period. If you and she are comfortable with this for now, then she can, as I said, above, just take a test in a couple of weeks (a couple of weeks after the sexual activity you're referring to here) to make sure she's not pregnant. Going forward, I can't emphasize enough that having anal sex is not a form of birth control so if the two of you don't want to get pregnant you will need to use a form of birth control.
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 08:45 AM
I thought that you wont get pregnant during period?
Saffron Reimi
Member # 49582
posted 04-05-2012 09:26 AM
That's actually a myth; All women have their own cycle of ovulation and menstruation, and with that some for some people ovulation can occur very near after menstruation. Just the same, women’s bodies are built in a way that allows pregnancy to occur, and thus sperm can live for days in the reproductive tract. So, it’s certainly possible for a person to become pregnant if she has sex during her period. [ 04-05-2012, 10:08 AM: Message edited by: Saffron Reimi ]
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 09:33 AM
Oh... I believe in my case, I'm safe..
Stephanie_1
Member # 36725
posted 04-05-2012 10:34 AM
Whatever risk someone has is something they need to decide whether or not they are okay with. Some people are okay with having unprotected sex of any kind and hoping they won't become pregnant, or know that if they do they will be okay with pregnancy occurring right now. Other people really don't want to become pregnant right now/ aren't ready for a pregnancy right now and try to lower the risk as much as possible. It's all a personal decision. That said, this IS something you should talk over WITH your partner. It's something you BOTH and especially SHE needs to be okay with any risk with, because if someone becomes pregnant it will be her. There would be a risk in this case, though it's not as high as with some other risks, it is one. So if she wishes to lower the risk again she can obtain EC. As well, there's a risk for STIs, so if you've not both been tested and have not both had two full clear STI tests then in about a month's time you'll also want to take care of that. [ 04-05-2012, 10:39 AM: Message edited by: Stephanie_1 ]
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 10:07 PM
How much of risk are there? Very very little, close to nil, right? EC isn't that easy to get from my country.
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 10:48 PM
She washed the insides of her vagina too. Does that changes anything?
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-05-2012 11:25 PM
She doesn't think that it's her period, but the amount of blood bleeding from her vagina is almost like a period. She's off the pill for 1 month. Is it her period? I fingered her too after anal, but how much of fingering does it takes to cause such bleeding?
September
Member # 25425
posted 04-06-2012 03:15 AM
The risk is small, but it is NOT zero. Whether or not your partner wants to take EC is something for HER to decide, not for you or for us. The fact that she washed her vagina does not change anything, as you were told earlier. It is also not a good idea to wash inside the vagina at all. If she has been on her pill for one month, it is hard to make any predictions in terms of her period. It can take the body up to three months to get back into the swing of things and adjust to being off the hormones. So, this may be an early period, or it may be spotting.
Ransu
Member # 80039
posted 04-06-2012 03:33 AM
And also bleeding from her vagina from injuries, right?
September
Member # 25425
posted 04-06-2012 07:00 AM
Could your partner be spotting due to rough manual sex? Yes. Does this have any bearing on her pregnanc risk? No.