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Member # 66334
posted 05-28-2011 05:20 PM
so me and my boyfriend have talked about having trying sex again and the protection thing
He said ill try get some condoms (but it will prove tricky as we live in a small town and i dont really want people to know) and I said that i want to get on the pill but have to find a way to get to the drs (my mum wont help) and he said hell try help . we txted bout it and something slipped that confused the crap outta me: after saying i want to be on the pill and we talked bout getting there and cost ect i asked so you are actually gonna get some condoms he said'Yes but im not sure about how yet.And apparently it feels better without" so im like errr so if i went on the pill youd wanna try with out condoms ? and he said no i still would use condoms (huh????????) .i said k. then he say would you still want me to wear one? to which i said well .. i think you have to be on it consistantly for a few weeks before its reliable.(and know after reading some stuff on here dont even get if its thats true????)and that i think id try it (we are both each others first with everything even kissing and i know this is true -we have known each other for a looooooong time- so were not at risk for stds are we???)
Member # 27731
posted 05-28-2011 06:53 PM
Have you both been tested for std's? You may be each others first for std's but there are other ways to get some of them.
Both methods if done properly make the likelyhood of pregnancy very very low but neither method is 100% effective doing both will substantially improve the odds that pregnancy won't occur. From what you've said about the textmessages it sounds like he is saying his number one choice is to try without condoms but if he can't convince you to do it that way he is fine with his number 2 choice of doing it with condoms. Basically anything he has to do that allows him to have sex is good with him. What it boils down to is he is trying to persuade you to try without condoms. My advice is to ask yourself whether you want to have a child. If the answer is no then ask yourself whether you want sex and if the answer to that is yes then you should take every safety precaution you can to prevent even the remote possibility of a pregnancy occuring while you have sex which means both the pill and condoms should be used.
Member # 66334
posted 05-28-2011 09:20 PM
no.how can you get stds when youve never had sex in any form with anyone else? and how badly does it lower the odds ? i mean only using the pill opose to both?
and i would kinda like to try at somepoint down the line . once im more informed bout the risks. and am i right do you have to be on the pill for a few weeks b4 its at its full effectiveness??
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Member # 44338
posted 05-28-2011 11:11 PM
Certain STDs can also be passed down from mother to child during childbirth. There are likely other ways as well of which I am unaware that a person can contract an STD without partaking in any kind of sex.
Member # 27731
posted 05-29-2011 12:16 AM
Some std's can be transimitted by blood so if someone with an std cut themselves and somehow that blood got into an open cut you had then it is possible and there are also those that can be transmitted from mother to child in the womb. Each of these scenarios is very unlikely. You should have had noticable symptoms if you had caught something but it is always good to be on the safe side and get checked before each new partner including the first one. Look at it this way do you really want to have to tell a partner at some later point that the reason they've got an std is because neither of you knew you needed protection since taking an hour or two out of your day to go get a standard blood test was too much of an inconvenience?
The effectiveness of the pill is generally rated at 99%-99.99% depending on which statistics you view so it is very safe even on its own. Condoms however I've seen conservatively rated in some studies as being about 85% effective if used properly though many others give ratings as high as 99%. The main issue is the possibility of it breaking or coming off which if put on properly and used correctly is unlikely to happen. There are several versions of "The Pill" made by different manufacturers but the general time frame tends to be a full 7 days [as in if you take it sunday at 9pm you should wait at least until the next sunday at 9pm or to be on the safe side the following day monday at 9pm] though it is VERY important to read the instructions given with the pills since they will tell you exactly how long to wait or if you don't want to read through it all you can ask your doctor when they prescribe them. As for your question on whether its ok just to use the pill I know married couples who have been together for years and just used the pill and never had a pregnancy but that means you need to be absolutley sure to take it exactly as often as the instructions say to take it if your only taking it once a week and it says to take it once a day that's going to be a very big problem.
Member # 66334
posted 09-11-2011 02:35 AM
I talked to the lady at family planning . She said theres no real chance of stds as we were both complete virgins and neither of us had any to start with ( through parents, cuts ect) im now on the pill . It was a personal choice Im glad I made . We use a condom sometimes aswell and never ever have sex if I forget to take it on time or forget a pill (which has only happened once) but Im thankfull for your views
Member # 33376
posted 09-30-2011 12:21 PM
to make sure, i would make sure he wears a condom all the time. i honestly don't trust a guy that would say that he wouldn't want to, because pill or no pill, he's still putting you at a danger of becoming pregnant even if you both don't have any STIs