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Member # 51405
posted 03-07-2011 08:13 PM
So my partner and I are both getting tested for STDs/STIs this week. We have been together for a little over 3 months. We have already engaged in unprotected oral sex on each other and we have had unprotected genital to genital contact, but we use condoms every time during intercourse.
The last time he got tested was a year ago, and all his test results were negative. The last time I got tested was a year and a half ago, and all my test results were negative. I was reading in the article "What Safer Sex Isn't" about how both partners should get tested 6 months into a relationship, after using protection at all times/being exclusive. My situation doesn't exactly fit that equation (we are exclusive but haven't always used protection), but I was wondering: assuming both our test results come back negative, would I have anything to worry about in terms of "waiting for something to show up"? I was thinking that since we each haven't gotten tested in about a year, that that's plenty of time for something to show up. Is that correct thinking? This is the specific passage I'm referencing: "What we advise if you want to get to a point where you're taking a pass on condoms or other latex barriers is six months of barriers and exclusivity, then a fresh round of STI testing for both partners. If all of both your tests come back negative AND you both agree to remain exclusive, and only then do you stop using condoms while keeping up with STI tests every year or two (depending on how long you're together and exclusive for) you can be pretty sure that the risk of STIs is very low. That six month window allows for plenty of time for STIs possibly acquired before you two got together to show up on tests, and also gives you both some time to establish trust and see if exclusivity is going to remain something each of you wants to continue and will continue." Thank you!
Member # 3
posted 03-07-2011 08:19 PM
Before you two got together three months ago, when was the last time one or both of you had another (or more) sexual partner?
(Also, just know that tests still are very accurate, but not infallible and some STIs can lie dormant for a while without showing up: HPV is the biggie for that, but that'd be about you since he can't get tested for that.)
Member # 51405
posted 03-09-2011 07:33 PM
The last time I had sex before him was 1 year and 9 months ago. The last time he had sex before me was 7 months ago. In terms of HPV, I am getting a Pap smear and then, assuming I don't have HPV, I am getting the Gardisil vaccine.
Member # 3
posted 03-10-2011 10:17 AM
Okay. So, if you bot get tested again now, both get negative results, and your relationship has been and stays exclusive, then you can feel confident that your risks of most STIs at this point should be very low.