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Member # 40761
posted 10-22-2008 11:05 AM
I'm a journalist working for Xtra magazine in Toronto. I got in touch with your forum mod Heather who encouraged me to post here. I'm working on a story about teens and their access to sex toys. Here in Canada the age of consent is 16, but almost every store that sells sex toys only allows 18+ people into their stores. I'm interested in your perspectives, as young people exploring sexuality; do you care about sex toys? Do you have trouble purchasing them? Would you use one as an alternate to having penetrative sex with someone else? Any comments you guys have would be really helpful, since I'm trying to get a really well-rounded understanding of the issue. Take care!
Member # 40302
posted 10-25-2008 10:43 PM
I am 15 and there is a joke store in my area, (east coast of the united states) that claims to sell "personal massagers" which are really vibrators. However, this store is not 18 or older, infact, anyone can buy these. I, personally, have no interest in sex toys, but, if I really wanted one, it would be fairly simple for me to get ahold of one, via the internet. My desire to have sex(I am a virgin)is purely for the closeness, and further connection with my boyfriend, than a means of "getting off" so I don't think I would use one in my current standing. Hope this helps!
Member # 39760
posted 10-26-2008 12:26 AM
I have never bought/owned a sex toy but I thought I would tell you that if I did I would purchase one over the internet. My experience with adult stores (they are meant to be 18+ but I have visited a couple from a younger age - the age of consent here is still only 17) has been pretty scary... I remember once a friend and I visited one and there were two older males who obviously owned/worked in the store... while we were innocently perusing what was in the store they were hurling abuse at each other and seemed as if they would be ready to get into a fist fight at any time... we weren't even sure if they would take out their anger on us... it was a terrifying experience, so I'm pretty sure I would never set foot in an adult shop again.
Member # 36078
posted 10-26-2008 03:42 PM
'guys' and girls, right?
Member # 21797
posted 10-26-2008 05:31 PM
There's this small, artsy town rather close to where I live. My theater group would go there once a year during high school to do performances, etc. And there were several high-priced shops in the area. Of course, we all thought it was taboo and exciting and tried to pass ourselves off as eighteen and such, but most of the owners carded you at the entrance. I'm really not sure of how teenagers in general perceive sex toys. As for myself, I rather enjoyed them as a teenager. :] My mother, however, ran a small sex novelty business online out of our basement, so it wasn't like it was something taboo and out of reach for me.
Member # 31674
posted 10-27-2008 10:16 AM
I would personally love to own a sex toy. I'm sure it would make things much easier. But I would worry about where to hide it so my parents wouldn't find it.
But I do live relatively close to a sex shop, in which a member of my family (not immediate) owns. You have to be 18 to go inside but a couple of my friends who are not 18 have gone inside and purchased things.
Member # 40774
posted 10-30-2008 10:27 AM
I'm twenty. When I was a young teenager I really wanted sex toys and porn and felt unclear about the laws. Could I buy erotica in a Borders? Could I buy DVDs at the gay bookstore? I asked online but never got a definitive answer and felt too scared to find out in person.
I ended up discovering ways to purchase stuff online. I had a sort of teen credit card called a "VisaBuxx" that's basically a reloadable gift card. It's accepted wherever Visa is, the catch is that if it's used at an "adult location" an email or phone call gets automatically sent to your parent, so I spent a lot of time worrying and intercepting those. The stress of that ended up not being worth it. I found though that the"family-friendly" site Amazon.com has a surprising amount of sex toys (not very good quality, but still) and tons of smut so I bought stuff from there. I felt angry at the time that I couldn't buy sex toys and I still feel angry that teenagers can't. I see no reason why a fourteen year old shouldn't be able to easily purchase dildos, vibrators, a mr. softee, etc. and lube! It pisses me off so much that a wide variety of lubes aren't readily available. [ 10-30-2008, 10:39 AM: Message edited by: bluejumprope ]
Member # 40302
posted 11-02-2008 07:50 PM
(do you have to be 18+ to buy lube??)
Member # 5375
posted 11-02-2008 08:10 PM
Nope, you can buy lube at any age. It can be found in pharmacies which you can obviously go into at any age.
Member # 21797
posted 11-03-2008 08:14 AM
Yep, lube, condoms, etc, none of that is age specific. At least not at the pharmacy I work at. :]
Member # 40302
posted 11-03-2008 10:17 AM
yea, thats what I thought. Except emergency contraceptive, apparently that you need to be eighteen or older for, but you can get it at pharmacies. So silly!
Member # 40774
posted 11-03-2008 12:32 PM
Yeah, you can get lube in pharmacies. I was just talking about how access to a wider variety of lubes is blocked. Pharmacies tend to have a pretty limited selection, though that might be changing, I'm not sure. I haven't been in a drug store for a while.
Member # 40302
posted 11-03-2008 10:53 PM
-shrug- i honestly haven't looked too much, online is always an option. you can find any lube imagenable.
Member # 40951
posted 11-04-2008 03:10 AM
If I were to hypothetically purchase a sex toy, since they are illegal for minors to purchase to the best of my knowledge, I would go about it on the internet of course. Both Visa and Mastercard have different cards that will work anywhere they are accepted, as well a lot of sites using Pay Pal, which can be used by anyone. These days, it's not too hard to get anything like that. It would be nice if it was more commonly accepted for minors to purchase such items, but then it would turn into a whole fiasco of exposing children to such heinous acts as confronting sexuality. In all honesty, sex toys would be a good way for teenagers to vent their sexual feelings in a safe way. I suppose most will have to stick to their hands for now though.
[ 11-04-2008, 03:22 AM: Message edited by: ara5 ]
Member # 40952
posted 11-04-2008 03:56 AM
Great question to ask!
I'm a 22 year old female now but was introduced to sex toys at 16 by my boyfriend who was 21 at the time and went to the store to buy them for me. At that age I was nervous about it and started out on small personal massagers and different lubrications and movies and such. Once I turned 17 I bought vibrators and/or dildos. Well he bought them. You have to be 18 in IA to go into an adult emporium. So my situation is a little different from others being that I was in a relationship and had access to them. I agree with ara5 about sextoys would be a safer way for teenagers to vent sexuality and maybe there will be less pregnant teenagers. Of course this does bother many men who feel inadequate (sp) when there partner uses a sex toy. I am a romance consultant and sell sex toys but I wouldnt want to see anyone under the age of 16 buying one. I think that (especially for girls) 16 is probably the most mature age to be making sexual desicions. Though I can't sell a sex toy to anyone under the age of 18 either. Let us know if when your article gets posted and if it will be online. I think it will be a great article good luck
Member # 41051
posted 11-11-2008 10:53 AM
In Engalnd it's teh same i think. But Anne Summers seems open to anyone and apprently they ahve sex toys.
At any rate, if I wanted one I would order it off the internet. I'd be too embarassed to get one in person and the internet is both discreet and it delivers it by post to your door.