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rawrimmadinosaur24
Member # 39179
posted 09-03-2008 04:15 PM
I am 16 and sexually active. I really want to go to the gyno and get stuff checked out to be safe, but how would one go about asking to go to the gyno without arousing suspicion? Like if i just come out of no where and ask my mom if i can go, she'll immediately think/know i'm having sex. I need a cover up. Help,suggestions?
Alice
Member # 28346
posted 09-03-2008 09:36 PM
You don't really need a cover up. A part of normal preventative health care is seeing a gyno about once a year when you start having somewhat regular periods. Check out this article:Your First Gynecologist Visit Is there a reason you can't talk to your mom about being sexually active? You might be surprised at how much some parents might know, and how supportive they'd be. Have you had any theoretical conversations with her about it?
rawrimmadinosaur24
Member # 39179
posted 09-04-2008 06:07 PM
My mom is very...strict. She's caught me and my bf fooling around and is not happy about it.
rawrimmadinosaur24
Member # 39179
posted 09-04-2008 06:10 PM
by that i mean was
cool87
Member # 29292
posted 09-04-2008 08:05 PM
Well you have a right of privacy so the GYN shouldn't tell your parents that you had an appointment nor what is going on medically with you in most cases. So there is always a possibility of you going alone to the GYN if really you don't want your mom to know about it although I think it is always a better idea to be honest with your parents about it. But, from what I can gather, your mother seems to already know about the two of you being sexually active anyway. Do you fear she gets angrier when you tell you want to be safe and have annual GYN checkups ? Too, it's worth knowing that annual GYN checkups aren't only for sexually active persons, it's also something good to get into once a girl starts her period, which your mom maybe is simply not aware of. I think it might be worth having a talk with your mom about all that. While you fear a negative reaction from her part, it might not necessarily be the way it will go, you might be surprised and she might be happy to hear that you're being honest with her about it and trying to be safe sexually. [ 09-04-2008, 08:10 PM: Message edited by: cool87 ]
rawrimmadinosaur24
Member # 39179
posted 09-05-2008 07:16 PM
she thinks its strictly for ppl who are sexually active. i told her that its said someone should go to the gyno after they get they're period, but she sticked to same old answer" the gyno is for sexually active people"
Heather
Member # 3
posted 09-05-2008 07:18 PM
So, your mother is uninformed. A LOT of women have been told that in their lives, so that's not surprising. But regardless, you are able to get your own sexual healthcare without a parent's permission or aid. In New York, you have a lot of clinics available for your use, particularly if you're in the city.
Lavie
Member # 39869
posted 09-07-2008 10:42 AM
I want to go to the doctor to talk about my options before becoming sexually active. My mom has mixed feelings and I know my regular doctor, who is a female, would flip a switch. HELP