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Member # 37857
posted 05-27-2008 03:55 PM
I was wondering, if someone has developed a cold sore, do they have the oral herpes virus in their body forever?
Can genital herpes be passed on to another person through oral sex even after the cold sore is gone? Do any of you even know how a person gets a cold sore? I've had canker sores before but that was from changing my diet.
Member # 3
posted 05-27-2008 04:00 PM
There is no cure for the herpes virus: since someone has it, they have it for life. And someone with cold sores -- not canker sores -- has oral herpes.
Oral or genital herpes are usually passed -- be it orally or genitally -- when a sore is active or becoming active, but transmission is still possible without a sore being present. Outbreaks tend to happen when someone is stressed out or when their immune system is working overtime, such as when a person is ill with something else, like a cold, flu or other illness. Outbreaks can be reduced markedly by medications expressly for suppressing them.
Member # 38636
posted 05-27-2008 10:29 PM
I have a question about this too. Can't you get it from just kissing? And if you already have it that way, is it really a danger to have unprotected oral sex?
Member # 13245
posted 05-28-2008 12:37 AM
Herpes can be transmitted by any contact with a sore, developing sore, or, more rarely, indirectly by touching the sore, then touching someone else.
There's more than one strain of herpes, so even if you already suffer from one strain, you could still be exposed to another. So yes, there really is a danger For more info about Herpes, check out: The STI Files: Herpes
HPV & Herpes: Why Safer Sex Isn't Always Safe Enough
Member # 37672
posted 05-28-2008 10:50 AM
I think my bf does have oral herpes cause when he had a cold in Decmeber, he had a cold sore.
I don't know how I'd be able to add dental dams into my sex life. I find it's a turn off. Plus, they don't even sell dental dams in the pharmacy.
Member # 25425
posted 05-28-2008 01:32 PM
Well, passing on STIs seems like a much bigger turn off to me than using safer sex practices.
If your boyfriend had a cold sore, then that means he has oral herpes. This means you'll want to avoid sexual contact when he's having an outbreak, and you'll want to practice safe sex at all times, as there's always a small risk of passing it on. If you're looking for dental dams, you can find those online. If that's not an option, you can also use condoms: just cut off the top and the ring and then cut them open length-wise, et voila, you've got your own homemade dental dam. And using condoms and dental dams doesn't have to be a turn-off. Using protection expresses responsibility and maturity and signals that you take your own health and that of your partner seriously. That's pretty darn sexy! Why don't you talk to your partner about incorporating safer sex practices?
Member # 27966
posted 05-28-2008 01:50 PM
Just to add, you can also make dental dams out of saran wrap- just make sure that you use the non-microwaveable kind, as the microwaveable stuff has little holes in it small enough for viruses to pass through.
Member # 38636
posted 05-29-2008 09:05 PM
If it's something as little as a cold sore on my genitals, I kind of...don't care. >__> Am I making a horrid choice or what? I just don't see much harm in that, really. Or is it worse than I might think?
Member # 26516
posted 05-29-2008 09:13 PM
Genital herpes is not gonna be just a little thing. It's a virus that you'd have for life and you'd have to use protection 100% of the time, including dental dams/condoms for oral sex. You would also most likely have to avoid any kind of sex during an outbreak since skin to skin contact can transmit the virus. Too, it's something you'd have to let every new partner know about. Probably not a fun conversation.
Check this out if you haven't already: . Symptoms generally include itchy, sore or painful rashes. The STI Files: Herpes Using protection is definitely a better option. [ 05-29-2008, 09:23 PM: Message edited by: blysse_norwood ]
Member # 13245
posted 05-29-2008 10:11 PM
Also, speaking as a friend of a herpes sufferer, it is NOT fun. Itchy, sore and miserable during breakouts, and you can't put soothing cream or anything on the sores or it slows healing. Definately not something I'd wish on anyone.
Member # 1679
posted 05-30-2008 09:00 AM
(Not to dog-pile here as well...but just another thing to think about...) For women who contract genital herpes and then become pregnant and give birth, herpes can certainly be more than a little thing. They have to be monitored carefully. If they have a severe outbreak during the first trimester, it increases the risk of miscarriage. And if they have an outbreak when they deliver (with a vaginal delivery) there is a significant risk of passing it to the baby (and baby can contract it on a variety of body parts at that point, like in their eyes, noses, and other areas) which can cause neurological problems or even death in some cases.
(Please note, I don't mean to be scary about this. Women with genital herpes can and do have healthy babies all the time. It requires careful monitoring and attention from health care providers. But it is wise to be aware that there can be consequences to individuals other than yourself before deciding that something like this is no big deal.)