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Member # 12802
posted 06-05-2003 02:13 AM
I have a problem. I honestly dislike the male genital organ. I hate seeing it. I don't want to touch it and it makes me kinda ill when I see one. I am attracted to men (though I am bisexual, well more pansexual but more people are familiar with the first term) But I can't see myself ever giving a guy oral sex.... Is there something wrong with me? Am I a full blown lesbian? I know this must seem a lil silly.
Member # 168
posted 06-05-2003 12:14 PM
I used to think that penises were gross also when I was 12-14. I just grew out of it. It could just be a stage- you know, you don't have one, it's something unfamiliar to you, so you think it's gross.
If you don't think it will just pass, think about whether or not it would make a difference if the penis is attatched to someone you care for. You'll never be giving oral sex to a free floating penis. That penis will be part of someone, hopefully someone that you like, respect, and care for. You might be able to accept his penis as part of him and learn to like it.
Of course, if you find a man that you're attracted to and care for, but still don't want to be involved with his penis, that's totally up to you. You never HAVE to interact with anyone else's genitals. Remember, sex isn't all about the penis. There are other fun things you can do.
You were never no locomotive, Sunflower, you were a sunflower! -Allen Ginsberg
Member # 12538
posted 06-05-2003 12:23 PM
Maybe the reason you have Vaginismus (from your previous post)is because you dont like the male organs. Just something to think about.
Member # 12802
posted 06-05-2003 02:02 PM
ah Sublime that was my friend she was using my account because she doesnt have an email addy and cant look at this site at home for parental reasons...
Member # 5375
posted 06-05-2003 02:29 PM
Hon, it's against our
guidelines to have multiple people using the same username. As you can see, it gets rather confusing.
There are tons of places where your friend can get a free email account and thus her own username and password. Please do not allow anyone else to use yours again.
Member # 13101
posted 06-05-2003 03:53 PM
Hi, yourstruly. I had the same issue as you a while ago, and a shorter while ago another girl posted a similar question to yours. The thread was called "is it weird t think that..." and it's on the third page of this board (I'd link you to it, but I don't know how). I think my answer may be even more relevant to you, though; the other girl was big on the protestations of straightness...
Anyway, following is my answer, edited slightly. I hope you find it useful. "Personally, I thought that too at first- well, not so much that they are ugly, but that they're kind of ridiculous-looking, with a bit of ugly thrown in, and occasionally the image of one would just get stuck in my head and I couldn't get it out and it felt kind of sickish. I think part of it is when you see them they look different than you expect them to; there's all kinds of veins, and things. Part of it, too, I think, is that at the heart of it it is pretty strange to think that some people have different stuff between their legs than you do. Anyway, I worried about it, too, and thought there was something wrong with me, and that maybe I just couldn't relate to men (and/or penises) properly cos I like girls too...don't worry. You get used to it. Now I think they're kind of cute, and pretty sometimes, and impressively useful (think: only men can display arousal externally and obviously like that). Thinking of an erect penis as a powerful sexual symbol (like that chalk guy on the side of that hill in England) rather than a turkey-neck-lookin' pink appendage helped a lot. From what I've heard and read, a lot of women have that reaction; it's not weird at all, and there's nothing wrong with it, necessarily. Don't worry."
You also might want to check out a very funny transcript of a short film, "The Year of the Penis"; it's available in the book Vamps and Tramps, a collection of essays by Camille Paglia. The rest of the book is very good too. And check out that other thread, too, though I don't know how useful you'll find it.
Member # 5375
posted 06-05-2003 11:47 PM
Just posting the link:
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Member # 8067
posted 06-07-2003 11:47 AM
It might also be worth reading through
Man’s Best Friend – Male Sexual Anatomy.
Sometimes things can seem weird and scary when they're unfamiliar, but much less so when you learn how they work and why they look the way they do.