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Member # 3901
posted 10-11-2001 07:44 AM
I have become involved with a girl for some time now....and i recently discoverd that she is a virgin.she has expressed the fact that she wishes to lose her virginity with me. Now I remember my first sexual encounter..It was'nt very well special. in fact i would go as far as to say i really did'nt like it. plus i have a kind of morel conviction against taking virginity.....I would feel well bad, For me it was like losing my youth i had to grow up real fast after that. i dont want the same to happen with her.kinda confused with the whole situation, not sure with what i should do?
So i just wanted to get the Ideas of this community on taking Virginty. So please give Input. (not asking for if i should do it, just want to know what everyone thinks on the subject) anyone know where i'm coming from.
Member # 1386
posted 10-11-2001 09:05 AM
You might want to read this first:
Virginity is a social construct and has different meanings to different people. Being somebody's "first" is not too unusual. After all, every one has a "first" time.
You and your girlfiend might also want to each check out
http://scarleteen.com/sexuality/firsttime.html http://scarleteen.com/sexuality/readiness.html and then decide if this is what you want to do. After you and your girlfiend have read all three articles, please feel free to post about any questions or concerns you have, One think we advise all Scarleteen readers, if you don't want to partake in a sexual activity, don't.
We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.
- Albert Einstein
Member # 961
posted 10-11-2001 08:51 PM
The first time I had sex, I didn't lose anything, nor was something taken from me. There's a first time to everything, and fancy wording or not, these times may be memorable, good, bad, or unimportant, and it doesn't necessarily matter at all. Please read the links Bobolink gave you. There's some awfully good information in them.
Member # 4822
posted 10-12-2001 11:48 PM
The term "virginity" is really odd, in the sense that it does not have one clear definition.
What I think you're referring to, though, is just the idea of you being her first sexual partner. On the topic of that, if she is ready and willing to take on the responsibility that comes with having sex and you are willing to do the same, then do it. It's a personal decision between the two of you. Just be sure to do it safely if you do.
Member # 406
posted 10-13-2001 12:01 AM
Virginity is an antiquated term designed to determine how much a girl was worth. I find that rather offensive, as I don't think that I should be 'worth' anything, nor should my worth be based on whether I have or haven't had sex.
So, you can tell that my point of view is that you're not taking anything from her, and she's not giving anything to you. You're sharing something, a sexual experience that happens to be her first. And like all sexual experiences, they can be good or bad, something you do or don't want to remember. And if she decides that she wants to share that with you, then I'd say you should call yourself lucky, make sure you're both ready, and go for it
Brittany Scarleteen Advocate I want you to be free don't worry about me
[This message has been edited by Pixie69 (edited 10-13-2001).]