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She Runs To Eat Chocolate
Member # 37324
posted 11-02-2012 09:24 PM
Nov 1 I thought I got my period already because I had 2 dark blood stains early on in the day. And then I bled a little bit more in the day but by the evening...I wasn't bleeding anymore. Then I started to wonder why my body was this way even though my tummy is kind of churning (as it does with a period) and I think now it's just from anxiety because I don't know why this is happening.. On Oct 19, I was making out with my boyfriend and I became really really "wet" so quickly and when he was rubbing on me...I felt a little nervous but I didn't think I had any risk so I didn't take any EC or whatever.... Goodness but since I got this period I started reading online and there are all these implantation bleeding articles and I panicked!
She Runs To Eat Chocolate
Member # 37324
posted 11-02-2012 09:43 PM
Okay update I think it was like dark dark brownish discharge. Which is WEIRD and I am panicking about it
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 11-02-2012 09:49 PM
Hi She Runs, I understand that you are anxious, but could you clarify exactly why that is/what your question is- and what reasons you have for that concern?
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 11-02-2012 09:54 PM
Ideas for clarification: Is your period usually regular? And if so, around when do you usually get it (where does "Nov 1st" fit into the equation)? Are you on any kind of birth control? When you say you did not experience any risk on Oct 19th, what makes you think now that there is some reason for you to be worried? And what are you worried about? [ 11-02-2012, 09:55 PM: Message edited by: Claire P. ]
She Runs To Eat Chocolate
Member # 37324
posted 11-02-2012 10:17 PM
Could dark dark brownish discharge be implantation bleeding? Because the last time I had any genital rubbing with my boyfriend was oct 19! I had gotten my period the week before that... I was very wet during time but he ejaculated like... 15 minutes after we stopped and he was just playing with himself.... I didn't think that had any substanial risk and I didn't take EC... honestly I'm not feeling any of those "panic" pregnancy symptoms of swollen breasts, nausea... I only started panicking when I saw this It was just this Nov 1 when I got the dark dark brownish discharge and I was wondering if it was the start of my period or something else...Furthermore it didn't continue anymore in the evening AND at most I've just seen slight hints of light brown discharge... I think I'll take a pregnancy test or is this just a normal female experience??
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 11-02-2012 11:31 PM
How exactly are you defining "genital rubbing?"
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 11-02-2012 11:47 PM
Your post history shows you first asked a question about pregnancy risk back in 2008- at that time, you were linked to this pregnancy risk assessment article: http://www.scarleteen.com/pregnancy_risk_assessment_vaginal_intercourse Since it seems you are already familiar with pregnancy risk, I would ask what it is specifically about the sexual activity you call “genital rubbing” that leads you to believe that you may have a pregnancy risk...? You say you were not initially worried about a risk, so now that you are experiencing what may easily be spotting (especially for someone who has such a long history of irregular periods), what is it about this bleeding experience that logically overcomes your previous reasoning for a possible risk being present? To be clear, experiencing something that *could* be a sign or symptom (but just as easily could not be, depending on the context) is not, in itself, necessarily a legitimate indication of anything. Saying "I am experiencing a bleed that I don't think is my period" is really such a random jump from assuming there is a pregnancy risk- and in the context of your previous reasoning that you were at no risk, it is not only a random jump, but a completely illogical one. So, I'm asking if there is any step to your thought process that I'm missing here? If not, I do not think you should take a pregnancy test. Occasional spotting between periods, or changes in your bleeding's appearance/intensity/duration, is not uncommon for women. As you are someone with often-irregular periods, I *definitely* would not worry that your darker-coloring one-day bleeding is anything but just that. Plus, you yourself have said you did not engage in activity that put you at risk for pregnancy. ALSO: There are a number of posts where you mention taking, or considering taking, EC. As Heather suggested you might consider re your “panic from the boyfriend” post, have you considered adding another form of birth control to your (what seems current?) condom usage, such as going on the pill? While it’s true that EC and the pill are v similar hormonally, EC can take (as you’ve obviously experienced) quite a toll on your system. It’s not a great idea for your body to take it more than just occasionally/rarely, and so is really not something that should be considered anywhere near as often as regular proper use of contraception. Also, EC gives you absolutely no protection from possible STIs. What do you think about these options? Do you think an additional method of birth control would help ease your worry? [ 11-03-2012, 12:18 AM: Message edited by: Claire P. ]
She Runs To Eat Chocolate
Member # 37324
posted 11-03-2012 12:25 AM
I see what you are saying. I've been on BC aka condoms with my boyfriend since my last post on risk assessment as I had given up with all these unnecessary fears already and we had discussed together that is is wiser to be safe... with the exception of this oct 19 incident. I guess sometimes when you are caught in the moment it's really easy to forget being thorough. Anyway I just got scared about this because I've never had a spotting experience that lasted only a day! Previous experience I would get spotting days they would be 2 to 3 days... Thank you for knocking some sense into me
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 11-03-2012 12:59 AM
Glad to hear that you and your boyfriend decided to choose safe sex! Properly and consistently-used protection is really the only way to ensure you won't have pregnancy scares- because that's how you avoid risk. One more thing though: try not to be too easy on yourself when it comes to it being "really easy to forget being thorough" when "caught in the moment." For a couple clearly so concerned with pregnancy risk, it is probably the best idea for you two to both make a point of associating any sexual activity with the need to first stop to procure protection. Sure, it's possible to get distracted for a few moments, but you're in control of yourself/your actions, so setting your own personal limits and guidelines should really help your focus stay on track (at least long enough for your boyfriend to safely put on a condom). Glad to help!