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Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 08:28 AM
Please help me. My boyfriend and I were having manual and oral sex which I know is not a risk. However, I think some semen got on a little stuffed animal. I remember my boyfriend tossing and holding this stuffed animal and then a little later he touched me down there again. Is this a risk? I'm so scared. Please help me.
Onionpie
Member # 41699
posted 09-08-2012 09:10 AM
Hey anna, this situation would be covered by some of the articles in the "pregnancy limits" forum post. From Pregnancy Scared? : quote: Were you only kissing, having oral sex, manual sex and/or dry sex, where everyone had clothes on and no one ejaculated on or very near anyone else's vulva? These kinds of sex do NOT present any pregnancy risks, though some can present risks of STIs. quote: When pregnancy occurs, it is almost always when people have genital intercourse or other very direct genital-to-genital contact and/or when someone ejaculates directly inside a vagina or unto the vulva. Do you need any help clarifying anything in that information?
Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 10:26 AM
yes, but my clothes were off and my boyfriend was touching me when he had possibly just touched the toy that was on his penis. I freaked out a couple hours before he touched me because the toy smelled a little like semen. So couldn't there be a risk if he was holding or moving that around?
Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 10:28 AM
I mean, that just seems so legitimate, because the toy had smelt like semen, and it had been on his penis.
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-08-2012 10:29 AM
Short answer: nope. [ 09-08-2012, 10:30 AM: Message edited by: Claire P. ]
Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 10:32 AM
ok. I guess my next question is how long would it have taken for the sperm to die on the toy, or on someone's hand? The other question I had is that I am on Aviane-28 and I took a pill in the third week of my cycle about 8.5 hours late-- Yesterday I took the first placebo pill, even though I had already been bleeding because of the "late" pill, so now technically I am on my withdrawal bleed. Does this make my birth control less effective? Should I worry about the bleeding before my actual withdrawal bleed?
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-08-2012 10:32 AM
Also from Pregnancy Scared: "Have you not had any kind of sex at all (and were not sexually assaulted), but are worried because of something like touching a partner's hand then touching yourself, or using a towel that may have had dried semen on it? These kinds of scenarios do NOT pose risks of pregnancy. Sperm and ovum need specific conditions in which to co-create a pregnancy, and these ain't them."
Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 10:37 AM
so the length of time it takes to die doesn't matter? also what about my birth control? Thanks!
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-08-2012 10:41 AM
Anna, did you look over the pregnancy pages before heading over to post? It's usually the best thing to do because a lot of clearly-explained information on sexual basics is there, and you will not have to wait for a response. Your answer to the stuffed animal question could have been located by reading through this page: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/28/t/007116.html . To save time, this is info copy-and-pasted from The Refresher Course: "Sperm can live up to about 20 minutes in an environment that is unfriendly to them (in other words, outside the testicles, vagina or in lab conditions), but they are very delicate creatures in the great outdoors. So while, for instance, having unprotected anal sex where sperm can run right down into the vagina does create a possible risk of pregnancy, it isn't as likely a risk as it is with vaginal intercourse. If there is a distinct barrier between the vagina and the penis in question, such as thick or nonpermeable clothing (like a few layers of denim or polyester or PVC), water or an interstate highway, there is not a likely risk of pregnancy. In addition, you cannot get pregnant by swallowing semen, by oral sex, or by manual (with hands, or "fingering") sex. You CAN, however, catch or transmit STIs that way." [ 09-08-2012, 10:47 AM: Message edited by: Claire P. ]
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-08-2012 10:43 AM
When you say you took a pill 8.5 hours late, did you still take it the day you were supposed to? As in, there was no day you missed a pill entirely?
Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 10:47 AM
thanks for directing me to that information-- it says there is not a likely risk of pregnancy, but is that any risk at all? and by that I mean I usually take my pill around 11pm-midnight before I sleep, and I took it around 7:30am the morning after, which caused me to bleed a little one or two days later
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-08-2012 10:50 AM
My understanding of Aviane is that the potential pregnancy risk only comes in (once you are past its initial introductory and adjustment period to your body) once 24 hours have passed since your last pill. [ 09-08-2012, 10:51 AM: Message edited by: Claire P. ]
Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 10:53 AM
ok. Where can I clarify this information about my pill? I still am confused when the article says there is not a likely risk, but you are saying it is no risk at all?
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-08-2012 11:12 AM
Well, here is the where you previously had a very similar conversation regarding late pill-taking with Scarleteen: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/27/t/027816/p/1.html Otherwise, you can clarify it by reading the informational/instructive packet that generally comes as part of the birth control package.
Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 11:14 AM
ok. So my risk is nonexistent or very unlikely? I guess if it was very unlikely it would be basically nonexistent since I'm on the pill?
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-08-2012 11:17 AM
Regarding the article saying it is not a likely risk, that conclusion is within the context of "...water or an interstate highway, there is not a likely risk of pregnancy." As in, you are just as likely to become pregnant if you and your partner's genitals are separated by an object/material as you are when they are separated by a *highway*. So the wording of "not a likely risk" is supposed to be funny- obviously you can't get pregnant if you are a highway away from someone. Long story short, you don't have to worry about any risk.
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-08-2012 11:21 AM
Yes, plus with you being still protected by your birth control, there is *actually* nothing to worry about.
Anna284
Member # 93205
posted 09-08-2012 12:29 PM
I get that now, I was so panicked I wasn't reading clearly. Thank you for all the clarifications!
Claire P.
Member # 96773
posted 09-09-2012 08:41 PM
No problem!