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Member # 42926
posted 12-01-2010 08:32 PM
I've posted here before concerning my birth control (my mom doesn't know I'm on it, and I don't really have anywhere else to turn with questions... I don't mean to repeat ask) but I am getting concerned just by how people I am close to have reacted to finding out about a certain situation.
I have been on Ortho Tri-Cyclen Lo for 3 months - I'm 4 pills away from the placebo on my 3rd pack. Due to a recurring rash, I have been on topical steroid and steroid/antifungal creams, and was on antibiotics a month ago (I have already asked about that situation here). I also smoke (I know it's bad for me, but I am under immense stress lately due to family and relationship issues). Anyway... This month, my boyfriend and I have had unprotected (meaning condomless) sex three times. Once he pulled out, once he ejaculated inside me while I was using spermicide, and the third time he ejaculated without using a backup birth control method. Now, according to everything about the pill, I should be an almost perfect user. I take the pill at either the exact same time every day, or +-15 minutes at the most. One day I missed it by 1.5 hours. But when a few of my friends found out we had sex without a condom, they freaked, and last night my mom told me that she is scared I'm going to get pregnant because of weird dreams she's been having. I'm thoroughly freaked out. Bottom line, before I literally have a panic attack over this (I'm normally not this anxious about things, but I'm under a lot of other stresses and this is one I can't handle)... how much can I rely on my pill? Am I decently protected? Should I worry about pregnancy? I didn't think ejaculating inside was bad if you are on the pill and take it regularly... Please help?
Member # 36725
posted 12-01-2010 09:12 PM
As Heather said, no reason to worry about the effectiveness. When used correctly the pill is very effective, so best to try and relax. Too? Dreams are dreams, no reason to freak out over them.
Member # 42926
posted 12-07-2010 08:31 AM
Thank you so much Stephanie. I do have one last question, though... Why do people not rely on the pill? I was texting a friend last night, and we were talking about sex and I mentioned that I had sex a few times without a condom, and she flipped out. Quote from her text: "Don't have sex without a condom unless you want a effin baby!" You guys are sex experts pretty much and you say it is fine... Why does everyone else, people who are so very "smart" and have nurses for mothers, believe that I'm going to get pregnant now?
Member # 3
posted 12-07-2010 10:06 AM
That's going to be hard to answer because not only does everyone not feel that way, but people who do may have different reasons for feeling that way.
The pill is fairly easy to goof up, it's not one of the more goof-proof hormonal methods (for instance, ring compliance is easier, and depo shots are really hard to mess up). Missing pills can be all too easy, which is how most people who use the pill and wind up with a pregnancy do. While in perfect use, the pill is over 99% effective, in typical use, it's 92%, and lower than that for younger people (because it's often harder for younger people to comply with perfect use). So, there's that. But ultimately, you'd have to ask your friends what their own reasoning is.