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Miz Scarlet
Member # 3
posted 06-09-2006 04:24 PM
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Gumdrop Girl
Member # 568
posted 10-02-2007 12:57 AM
An emergency or crisis situation is one of these: quote: 1. A person may have a real unwanted pregnancy or STD risk 2. A person's life may be in imminent danger (suicide threat, or threat from an abusive lover, parent, relative, etc.) 3. A person needs help reporting and/or coping with a sexual assault 4. A person needs help reporting and/or coping with physical, sexual or emotional abuse 5. A person may have committed a crime either knowingly or unknowingly and needs legal help If your questions do not fit one of these categories, we recommend you post to a forum better suited to address your needs.
Kukki
Member # 41533
posted 12-13-2008 03:30 PM
I was raped about two moths ago and since then i have had a period on average every two weeks Also i am eating twice as much and drinking more than i probably should. My friends have told me it is possible to have your period whilst being pregnant and one of my work mates had a baby boy recently although she didn't know she was pregnant due to having peiods all the way though the pregnancy. Please reply quickly as i am too scared to go to doctors for i don't want the police involed i would rather just forget this ever happend
September
Member # 25425
posted 12-13-2008 03:39 PM
Welcome at Scarleteen, Kukki. I'm really sorry to hear what you've been through. Know that, if you are bleeding every two weeks, that's not likely to be a regular period. I would really urge you to see a doctor about this. You don't have to tell them what happened if you do not want to, but getting medical care is really important. As menstruation is the flushing out of an unfertilized egg and uterine lining, it is NOT possible to have a period and be pregnant. It is possible to have unexplained vaginal bleeding during a pregnancy, but that would not necessarily occur at the same time as a regular period, and would not look like a regular period. Also, it's generally something worth checking with a doctor about, just to be on the safe side. Since it has been two months since the rape, if you are concerned about pregnancy, you will want to take a pregnancy test as soon as you can, so that if you are indeed pregnant, you still have some time to decide what you want to do about it. I hear you saying that you just want to forget what happened, and I can absolutely relate to that sentiment, but here's the hard truth about sexual assault and rape: you cannot just forget about it. As much as it sucks, a rape is something that you have to work through and learn how to deal with. I would really encourage you to seek out some professional help in this, and if you let us know where you are, we can help you find some resources in your area. In the meantime, how does your support system look? Have you been able to talk to friends, family, a mentor, etc? Again, I would really urge you to seek medical care to find out the cause of your irregular bleeding, and also to see about STI testing.
Kukki
Member # 41533
posted 12-13-2008 04:16 PM
Thank you Joey, It's okay i know where the nearst clinic is Also My Fience and my friends are helping me through it all they have been very supportive. Again Thanks, Roxanna
September
Member # 25425
posted 12-13-2008 04:26 PM
You're welcome. I'm glad to hear that you have people who are supporting you. If you need any extra help dealing with this, you can always ask us.
kes335577
Member # 39460
posted 04-13-2009 09:39 AM
two nights ago my bf was out of town and his best friend invited me to a party. I went w 2 of my friends and we were drinking. he kept pushing me to drink more and more and was giving me shots. whenever i said no hed be like ur not really drunk its fine. then he asked me to go to the store w him to get more drinks and food for every1. as i was leaving my friend wanted to come too but he said no just me. i didnt really think anything of it but once we got in the car long story short he continued to give me booze and attacked me. i pushed him off but i really dont remeber what happened after that. the next day i told my bf. at first his friend denied it but then admitted that he hit on me and went after me. but he said we had sex. i dont remeber but i think we did. my problem is that now my bf thinks he wants to break up. i keep saying its not my fault but he says im still responsible and he cant get over what happened. is this date rape? i really feel like it is. the whole night he was trying to get me drunk and my friend told my bf that but his friends are deffending the guy. theyve been bff forever so hes kinda on their side. i cant imagine loosing him. i cant sleep. i cry constantly. i know that this is not my fault but hes blaming me. he keeps aying that he loves me but cant get past this. what can i say to him? how can i make him understand that this isnt my fault? i really need him to get through this. hes so important to me. hes not just my bf but my best friend too. i need his support. pls help me
atm1
Member # 37835
posted 05-15-2009 08:33 AM
Hi Kes, First off, I'm very sorry that that happened to you. You're absolutely right that it's not your fault. This sounds like a planned attack, like this guy was trying to hurt you. Secondly, can you start your own thread by pressing the "New Topic" button at the top of this page (right under all of the navigate stuff). Posts are much less likely to get missed that way. Now, is this the same guy you were talking about in this thread:http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/37/t/000003/p/2.html#000115 If so, he really sounds like bad news anyways. If he can't believe that you were hurt, taken advantage of, and assaulted (by someone who clearly planned it), this is NOT someone you want to be with. If you do want to stay with him, I'd encourage getting him to read up on some of these issues, starting with this article here http://www.scarleteen.com/what_is_rape_what_is_it_like_to_be_raped
ndfan
Member # 42934
posted 06-17-2009 11:13 PM
Hey, Sorry to bother you again but, I recently had a pregnancy scare! All of my pregnancy tests came back negative and I got two periods since April 15th! Tonight, as of right now I am having chest pains, and pains in my side! Is this a sign of eptopic pregnancy, I am really scared!!!! What could this be?
Heather
Member # 3
posted 06-17-2009 11:19 PM
Just for the record, next time you post a question, make a new thread, okay? Thanks! Severe pain that keeps up is something to have a doctor look at. There are so many things chest pains and pain in the side can be, from minor to very serious, that you want to be seen. Ectopic pregnancy may present one of those symptoms, but who knows what it could be. I'd get checked out.
lifeislittleforme
Member # 43724
posted 08-14-2009 07:48 AM
im 16yrs old , n a week back i had sex wid my bf. this is my first time, i didnt take in the penis but he just kept it there and and tried to ejaculate, well he did so n thoguh he removed it imediately i think some fell on my vagina, i went n washed , but im still afraid ... do u think dat i can get pregnant... u c im frm india and things r vry orthodox here...im totaly scraed and der r no places wer i can go n check easily plz reply as soon as possible do u think dat i can get pregnant..plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
atm1
Member # 37835
posted 08-14-2009 09:38 AM
Hi Sandy, This situation does present a significant STI and pregnancy risk. It's too late for emergency contraception, so you'll have to wait about another week to take a pregnancy test. You can also wait several weeks and simply wait for your period. In the future, do try to hold off on sexual activity until you have access to a reliable method of birth control, such as condoms.
lifeislittleforme
Member # 43724
posted 08-14-2009 09:25 PM
oh my god so i am going to get pregnant, im shit scared wht are the pregnancy tests are they costly oh yaar im goin to die if im prgnant
atm1
Member # 37835
posted 08-14-2009 10:00 PM
Sandy, you should be able to buy a pregnancy test at any pharmacy or place were you can get medicine. They should not cost very much, and the pharmacist or chemist can explain how to use one. You could probably also get condoms at the same time. If you feel like you would want to die if you are pregnant, then I STRONGLY advise that you hold off on all sexual activity until you no longer feel that way.
lifeislittleforme
Member # 43724
posted 08-14-2009 10:22 PM
thanks a lot atm1 4 al the help, though im totaly upset,ill go take a test as soon as possible, but what if im pregnant then wht do i do... will it lead to abortion, isnt der ne other way
atm1
Member # 37835
posted 08-15-2009 07:01 AM
Keep in mind you need to wait until it's been 10-14 days after the risk. Waiting the full 14 means it's more likely to be accurate. Once you have your results, we can help you figure out what to do from there.
Ally Luft
Member # 45202
posted 01-01-2010 08:18 PM
Last night was my 1 year anniversary with my boyfriend and we've had sex before and yes it has already been protected until just last night. It was my last day of my period and we let our minds step into matter and we got a lil out of control and he ejaculated inside of me..I took the "morning after" pill just today. Could I be pregnant? PLEASE HELP
Destiny M.
Member # 59009
posted 03-15-2011 06:46 PM
growing up I was sexually abused by my older cousin for just about my entire life. I never told anyone until last year and she was my spanish teacher, She and I are really close so right after the abuse stopped I told her. SHe contacted authorities and my family says Im lying about it. But I dont want to press charges because Im afraid the court wont believe me. Im not expecting anyone on here to believe me, I mean why would you? It just hurts so badly and I see a therapist and she knows about the "abuse" and she feels for me. But im just so confused and hurt and she thinks I denied it wiht my last therapist which i didnt i just never discussed it, with my new therapist I didnt want to tell her but after about 7 or 8 months I came out and told her. I dont let it ruin my life, i just dont discuss it with anyone except that teacher and I dont deny it happened well I do to my docs and stuff but thats pretty much it. Im just lost and hurt and I feel almost angry at the world. Im sorry if you think im lying bc Im not, but you can believe what you want. Im just feel melancholy over the situation but nnot depressed
kj3857
Member # 107447
posted 05-11-2013 04:48 PM
I really am concerned that I'm pregnant. My boyfriend and I had a pregnancy scare last month and I ended up taking Plan B less than 12 hours later. I got my period just about on time and it wasn't a big deal. A couple days after my period ended (on May 1) we had dry sex although I am seriously concerned about pregnancy because there was a little genital to genital contact (I've read some of the postings you have on here about it). He says it wasn't a risk at all and that I shouldn't worry about it. I am a little concerned. I started having period-like bleeding this afternoon (two weeks early) and I'm worried this is implantation bleeding and not my period. Could Plan B have thrown my cycle that badly that my period would be so early? I'm going to take a pregnancy test soon but I have to wait a few more days before I can take it.
Stephanie_1
Member # 36725
posted 05-11-2013 04:55 PM
Hey kj3857, Welcome to Scarleteen. In the future if you click on the section you want to post in and scroll to the bottom of the posts there is a "Post a new thread" option. That way you have your own and we can be sure not to miss it. Plan B can cause cycles to be off. If it is more than just spotting it's not implantation bleeding. So keep an eye on it and see if it evens itself out - if it's bleeding like a normal period then that's what it is.