Would you feel ashamed iof you were diagnosed with chicken pox?
Not likely. Look love, bodies are falliable and susceptible to viruses and disease: your whole body, and that includes your genitals. Just because your virus is sexually transmittied doesn't make it any dirtier or "bad" than any other sort of illness.
Now, if you havem't been practicing safer sex, took a risk and now found out how much of a risk, then yes, you're going to feel a little foolish and likely angry with yourself. But the only sound, healthy way to manage that is by making a vow to yourself to now learn about safer sex and practice it, always, henceforth. Mind you, with HPV and Herpes, sometimes even that isn't always enough.
Can you have sex again? Yes, you can. At least one-third of all sexually active young adults right now have HPV. It's not just you, but that is a wake-up call to take safer sex seriously: and that includes not just condom, dam and glove use, but testing as well. You should also make a point right now of contacting your previous partners to inform them of this so they too can be tested.
The risk of giving it to others is high, but it is decreased dramatically via women when you keep check of your sexual health, get any active warts taken care of promptly, and use safer sex practices: again, namely condoms, gloves and dental dams and testing. You can find out about all of that right here: Safe, Sound & Sexy – A Safer Sex How-To.
You can also find out more about HPV here: Herpes & HPV and here: STI File: Human Papilloma Virus (HPV, Warts).
So, you have a new person you're dating. The way to start this right is to make sure that before you start progressing to sexual activities, you are comfortable enough with him to tell him you have HPV, tell him what his risks are, and talk about safer sex with him. if you can't do that -- for people with or without an STD or STI -- you shouldn't be sexually active. Those discussions and practices are necessary for everyone right now to have sex reponsibly whether they have an STI or not.
Editor and Founder, Scarleteen
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