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cassandra
Member # 8802
posted 01-24-2003 04:11 PM
we used a condom im i am very sure that it did not break but when i pulled it off he got some on his hand. then about 10-15 minutes later im sure his hands dried he started to touch me on the clitoris but i had my panties on.but i was kinda wet, so would the sperm seep through, but wouldnt they have died when his hands dried?im feeling sick lately (this was about 2-3 weeks ago). so sorry. thank you.
lemming
Member # 33
posted 01-24-2003 04:30 PM
I'm going to reply to you in this thread, instead of the other.If it's been two or three weeks since this happened - if it's been two weeks, minimum - you can take a pregnancy test. Follow the directions on the box.
If it comes up positive, go see your doctor.
If it comes up negative, wait a week. If your period happens, you are probably not pregnant. Take another pregnancy test, a week after the first.
Does this help?
------------------Laurel Lemming Scarleteen Advocate
"Maypole/The ties that bind you will unwind /To free me one day/And everything decays ..." - XTC, "The Wheel and the Maypole"
cassandra
Member # 8802
posted 01-24-2003 04:36 PM
yeh thanks...can i get a abortion without my parents knowing then please i need help. please. thank you.
lemming
Member # 33
posted 01-24-2003 05:14 PM
The reasons I didn't answer your question about abortion are:1. The first thing you need to do is take a pregnancy test. You may not even be pregnant, especially since the substance on your boyfriend's hands may simply have been vaginal lubrication if you used a condom properly. Check out this for more: What's The Risk? - Five Easy Pregnancy Risk Assessment Flow Charts
2. I don't know what country you are in, and I have not been able to find any laws regarding minors and abortion in Great Britain. Perhaps another Advocate - maybe one who lives in your country - will be of more help to you.
------------------Laurel Lemming Scarleteen Advocate
"Maypole/The ties that bind you will unwind /To free me one day/And everything decays ..." - XTC, "The Wheel and the Maypole"
logic_grrl
Member # 8067
posted 01-24-2003 05:57 PM
Here's a summary of UK law and guidelines for doctors: http://www.nelh.nhs.uk/guidelinesdb/html/fulltext-guidelines/InducedAbortion.html
Basically, since you are under 16, the doctor has to decide whether or not you are capable of giving informed consent to an abortion on your own.
She or he has an obligation to encourage you to involve your parents, but should not override your views if you want to keep it confidential (except in cases of suspected child abuse, incest or exploitation).
However, if you are pregnant, I'd really recommend telling your parents (unless doing so would actually put you in danger). Trying to hide your sex life from your family creates all sorts of risks.
And of course, before you start thinking about abortion, you need to take a pregnancy test.
cassandra
Member # 8802
posted 01-25-2003 06:15 AM
ok, now that i know this i just have one more question kinda for logic girl, if i were to have an abortion would i go to a clinic or hospitol and how much would it cost, not that money actually matters. Thank you and im sorry too.
logic_grrl
Member # 8067
posted 01-25-2003 07:32 AM
Cassandra, have you actually taken a pregnancy test yet?From what you've described, your pregnancy risk is really pretty low, so there's a strong chance that you're not pregnant at all.
If you are pregnant and decide to have an abortion, then a good strategy would be to call the Marie Stopes helpline on 0845 300 80 90. They will be able to find the clinic nearest to you and answer any questions you may have.
cassandra
Member # 8802
posted 01-27-2003 02:20 PM
i just wanna take precautions just in case i am. well felt a sharp pinch on the right side of my uterus.and i had peed quite a bit over the weekend, they are symptoms, i read them in a science book) . im sorry if this sounds really stupid but i am really scared.ive found a hospital where i can get it done.how long is it before i cant have an abortion anymore. thankyou and sorry. youre really helping me out loads.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 01-27-2003 02:35 PM
They CAN be symptoms.Those things can also by symptoms of a MILLION different condtions, or no condition at all.
Take a pregnancy test. When you do, we'll be happy to help with the rest. But until you do, you're limiting all your options from the onset and none of this means a thing in the rhetorical. If you need the rhetporical, logic gave you the line for Marie Stopes (who will also tell you you need a bloody test done).
We'd love to help you out loads, but the truth is, if you refuse to get a test done, you're not actually using the help, you're ignoring it. So at this point, until you take that test, consider this thread sitting in wait, on you. No one can do this stuff for you -- you have to do it yourself. You are taking no precautions right now at all -- you're simply putting off the first step and making any others that might follow even more difficult.
Since it's unlikely you're pregnant at all, chances are also high you're making high drama and a crisis when there need not be one. Go take the test.
When you do, feel free to post again on this.
------------------Heather Corinna Editor and Founder, Scarleteen
My epitaph should read: "She worked herself into this ground." -- Kay Bailey Hutchinson