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Babyjen24
Member # 102024
posted 01-16-2013 08:33 PM
Okay i am 20 years old, In high school we didnt have a sex ed class. and plus i have never had a boyfriend before. This one is my first I have not had sex nor i will till i am ready, Let me tell you what happen! Okay so December 16 was the last day of my period. I was suppose to get it January 7th according to my period tracker on my phone but it didnt come. I dont really have a 28 day cycle anyways. So i waited till today january 16th to see if it would come and it didnt, My boyfriend and I have not had sex!. But he has touched my vulva with his hands. He never fingered me. As soon as i felt him touch my vulva i took his hand out. i still had my leggings on we were fully clothed. I asked him if he had any semen on his hand before he touched me he says he is 100% sure he was clean or else he wouldnt of. But my period is late! i am stressing, and i was sick for about a week an a half i had the cold/and flu. I have been talking to him and he says that I am worrying to much that he had no semen on his fingers. He says that he is not worried. I believe him but at the same time my period has never been 10days late. But like i said i am stressing and i have been sick. i have a few questions if you can please answer them!. 1. Could he be able to feel semen in his hand even if it was just a little bit? that is if he had some because he says he didnt. 2. could stress and me being ill have anything to do with my period being late? 3. Is there any risk of pregnancy? lets say if he did have semen but he didnt know? P,S i have talked to my older sister and she said i was fine, that i cant get pregnant like that. My boyfriend also told me that i should take a pregnancy test Just to see that its negative so i could calm down and stop stressign. But I am scared to take one because what if t comes out positive. I am those type of girls that gets really nervous and stresses easy! [ 01-16-2013, 08:52 PM: Message edited by: Babyjen24 ]
Babyjen24
Member # 102024
posted 01-16-2013 08:38 PM
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Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 01-16-2013 09:34 PM
Hi Babyjen24 and welcoem to Scarleteen, Yes, being sick can have an effect on one's menstrual cycle. Check out:M.I.A or, Dude, Where's My Period? For your questions on pregnancy risk, can you take a look at this first? Then, if you still have questions, come on back. http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/27/t/027786.html
Showmelove
Member # 102024
posted 01-16-2013 09:43 PM
i have read the sites you had gave me earlier, but it kinda didnt really ease my worry. I mean i know that you have to have sex to have a higher chance of pregnancy. But i am just worried that maybe my boyfriend didnt know he had semen on his hands maybe just a little bit when he touched me.
Showmelove
Member # 102024
posted 01-16-2013 09:45 PM
i have been getting Cramps for the past 3 days. But still i have not got my period.
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 01-16-2013 10:08 PM
This article gives a pretty thorough explanation of just what it takes to create a pregnancy. I think you might find it helpful to read through this if you haven't alreadWhere DID I Come From? A Refresher Course in Human Reproduction
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 01-16-2013 10:10 PM
You may also find this helpful.http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/how_do_you_avoid_getting_pregnant_after_giving_a_handjob_or_oral_sex One of the key things here is that pregnancy really can't happen if there is no direct contact between bare genitals.
Showmelove
Member # 102024
posted 01-16-2013 10:15 PM
Okay so in other words this article is telling me that i cant get pregnant from the scenario that i described? i saw it said i cant get pregnant from manual sex correct? but what are the chances lets say if he had semen, or dry sperm in his hands? thats what i am more worried about
Showmelove
Member # 102024
posted 01-17-2013 02:38 AM
am i right? can someone answer my question please!
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 01-17-2013 07:46 AM
Based on the Where Did I Come from article, what did you learn about what is needed for pregnancy to occur? I know you're feeling really panicked about this, but we need to ask you to please be patient. This isn't a 24-hour service, and there may not always be someone aroudn to answer your questions immediately. Know though that we will get back to you. Pregnancy cannot occur through manual sex, no matter what the scenario is. Since you said above that you didn't really have much sex ed in high school, though, I'm hoping that you find the articles helpful in understanding why and how this is so, rather than just taking our word for it.
Showmelove
Member # 102024
posted 01-17-2013 12:34 PM
I understand that i am sorry. I've just been really stressed and scared about this whole situation. I just want to make sure that i am fine and tat i dont have to worry anymore, that i am most likely not pregnant. well i learned that In order to have a high chance of pregnancy there has to be direct genital to genital contact. so penis inside a vagina. or even touching. Also if he ejaculated directly into or around your vulva,(which directly means his actual penis correct?) so you would both have to be naked. So according to the article you cant get pregnant through manual sex no matter what the scenario is? so should i stop worrying so much.?
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 01-18-2013 05:55 AM
If you can stop worrying, that would be a good thing for you. You now have two sources (our site and your sister) saying this sexual activity is nothing to worry about. Does it make sense to you why a little bit of leftover semen on a hand isn't a pregnancy risk? You mentioned above that you haven't had a lot of sex education? We have a lot of articles on our site on several different topics. I'd also be hapyp to suggest some books if you think that would be helpful. Would you also like to talk about what sexual activity you would be comfortable engaging in with your boyfriend? It sounds like this activity has gotten you very worried, and that's not really any fun. Does your boyfriend know how worried you've been?
Showmelove
Member # 102024
posted 01-19-2013 10:39 PM
yeah i know. I did stop worrying though i got my period January 17th. Its flowing like a period and it acts like a period so i am pretty sure its not implantation bleeding because as i was inform you cant get pregnant from manual sex. and Implantation bleeding does not happen very often as what i have been told. And yes my boyfriend knew i was worrying that much. He was totally supportive and assured me i was fine. and i think i am not going to do any type of sex with my boyfriend i dont really want to worry about this again, and my boyfriend seems pretty supportive and accepts my decision. Thank you so much for your help! I appreciate it.
Onionpie
Member # 41699
posted 01-19-2013 11:17 PM
Hi Showmelove, I'm glad to hear that your boyfriend's being so supportive of you. It also sounds like you're making a decision around your sex life that you're more comfortable with, which is really awesome Happy we were able to help!
Showmelove
Member # 102024
posted 02-21-2013 12:01 AM
Hey guys So I just wanted to give you the latest update. and ask for one more advice. Okay so me and my boyfriend are fine like i had said earlier post i was not going to do anything that is going to worry me to much and i kept that promise. My question is something a little different today Feb 20 My boyfriend used my shower because his didnt have any hot water. So he took a shower around 6pm and i was at work till 8 when i came back i decided to take a shower, but instead of a shower i took a bath, I was doing fine until i saw the sponge you use to wash your body, I was thinking obiousky my boyfriend used that to take a shower and to wash his Penis most likely is there any chance sperm can be on that and stil alive or even in the bathtub? I was sitting down for like 5 min and then i got up and took a shower instead because it had me thinking. Can you Help me please.
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 02-21-2013 05:44 AM
Hi Showmelove, I answered your question in the other thread. For future reference, please don't post the same question more than once.