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Member # 101069
posted 12-16-2012 02:39 PM
This is kind of an embarassing question, but everyone here seems really nice, so I may as well ask. >.<
I have an issue with not being able to feel any pleasure down there with any kind of stimulation. It feels just like any other part of my body, and it's been this way for as long as I can remember. I've read through and tried everything on this site, but nothing feels good, and I've been trying for the past 2 years. I really want to have sexual experiences at some point, everything there looks normal, and I don't have any mental inhibitions towards sex. Lately I've been scared that there's something physically wrong with me, what should I do? Do I need to talk to a doctor about it?
Member # 25425
posted 12-16-2012 04:13 PM
Welcome to Scarleteen, chromatography!
When you masturbate, how do you start? Do you wait until you are horny, or do you just give it a try? Where do you touch yourself? Have you tried exploring your body to look for stimulation that feels good to you? What's your mind-set when it comes to masturbation? Are you able to relax and see where it takes you, or do you stay focus and pressure yourself to feel something? Answers to those questions will help us get to the bottom of what's going on. It is unlikely that there is any underlying physical cause for this. But if you are concerned, it's absolutely fine to make an appointment with a doctor or gynecologist and address your concerns with them.
Member # 101069
posted 12-16-2012 06:58 PM
I've tried waiting until I felt like it and not waiting, and I've always been relaxed and tried a lot of places, it's just lately that I've started to get frustrated. I try to just go with it, but nothing feels good or even unusual.
I'm pretty okay towards masturbation, I don't think its a taboo or anything.
Member # 90293
posted 12-17-2012 12:17 PM
It can be pretty frustrating when your body won't do what you think it should be able to. Know that how much sexual sensation someone has varies from person to person, and also from time to time in one person's life. So, while experiencing pleasure in one's genitals is terrific, it's not all there is to sexual experience. I'm not in any way saying that this is something you need to give up on; I'm wondering if it would be helpful to focus on other aspects of your sexuality for a while. Let's take a step back from the idea of genitally-focussed pleasure. Are there other parts of your body that give you pleasure when you or someone else touches them? What type of sexual stimulation makes you feel aroused? Have you seen this article?
With Pleasure: A View of Whole Sexual Anatomy for Every Body