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Member # 59241
posted 09-24-2012 06:08 PM
I've been coming here for over a year for sound advice. Having grown up in a very closed culture and not learned anythin about sex and reproduction, I found this source to be very helpful. I also understand that over time my posts have been frantic and stress related, but that's also the feeling that majority of other users tend to convey on this forum. The last post that I created was forcefully closed and I'm trying to understand why. In it Heather stated that I have a history of 800 posts, which I do not and do not think that is grounds to feel like I got reprimanded. Here's a link:
http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/get_topic/f/27/t/027846.html I have seen many other topics started on this forum which have gone to very long lengths in a back and forth and have not seen any of them get closed to not give the original user a chance to respond. I just felt like this treatment was quite unfair and unnecessary to me. I come here asking for advice from those who know more than I do. I do not come here with any other intent.
Member # 3
posted 09-24-2012 06:23 PM
srk, my mistake on your post count, I'm so sorry about that.
That said, as we make clear in our guidelines, we do reserve the right at any time not to answer posts, to delete them or to close threads. And while it seems like you haven't noticed it until now, in the past we have closed threads for various reasons, including when we feel like we're simply having the same conversation with a given user over and over and over again with no change or progress. When we do that, it's with the aim of serving a user best by not enabling a stuck pattern (or enabling a user asking us to help when we feel very certain they need a different kind of help, a kind we have usually recommended before closing a thread), and also doing the best we can for our community as a whole, and to make managing direct services...well, manageable. It sounds like one of your big issues with this is that you wanted to say something in that thread before it got closed that you weren't able to say. I'd be happy to give you space to do that now, here, if you like.
Member # 59241
posted 09-25-2012 08:47 AM
All I wanted to say in the other thread was thank you to your team for walking me through sound advice to help educate me and ease my fears. Like I said before I don't have anyone to speak to about these things and if that fear gets into the back of my mind, all I can think about is how scary my life would be and how drastically it would change. When you feel like the consequences would change your life forever, facing that fear can be really tough no matter how improbable that occurance is. So again, thanks for all the support.
Member # 90293
posted 09-25-2012 09:21 AM
You're welcome for that.
We do know how little information and support is out there and are glad you find what we provide to be helpful.