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Member # 95940
posted 06-03-2012 04:08 AM
Hello. I have been one the nuvaring since March 19th. Since then I have been very sexually active. Only been sexually active with one partner.
There are still a few questions I want to get cleared out. So, while being on the nuvaring me and my boyfriend have had a lot of intercourse. Sometimes with condoms sometimes without (mostly with condoms). Every time we use condoms he 'comes' inside, when we don't he pulls out before he does. My question is can I get pregnant with the times when he pulls out? Also the timing of the nuvaring, I have been able to insert the nuvaring at 7 or a few minutes before or after. But the times when I have removed it I have removed it sometimes earlier or a few hours later. Does this make it less effective? Also.. My boyfriend usually gives me oral sex before we actually have vaginal intercourse. The amount of time during vaginal intercourse is about an hour or more. Sometimes in the middle of vaginal intercourse I start to get a small feeling of discomfort around my vagina while he thrusts. I sometimes reach down the have to pull my outer labia lips upwards to lessen the feeling. The feeling is bearable but it slowly gets painful. Painful to the point where we have to stop and the pain stays for either a few hours or the rest of the day. I have a feeling it may be from the amount of oral sex he gives me and adding the amount of vaginal intercourse my clitoris must be getting sore? or is it the lack of lubrication? Also.. when I have this discomfort/pain,sometimes when I got to the restroom to urinate it hurts, is this an infection? I want to know why I feel that discomfort/pain,because it makes me feel bad when we have to stop because its usually near the time when he is about to 'come'. I'd be very grateful is someone can fully answer my questions :>
Member # 90293
posted 06-03-2012 08:11 AM
HI Chuck and welcome to Scarleteen.
Whenever we engage in types of sexual activity that could lead to pregnancy, there is a risk of pregnancy. Effectively using contraception, such as the nuvaring, condoms, or withdrawal, drastically reduces this risk. Using two methods together reduces the risk even more. Here's an article that lists effectiveness rates for combining different birth control methods. Using the nuvaring alone has an effectiveness rate of 92% with typical use and 99% with perfect use. Adding another method, such as condoms or withdrawal, increases protection against pregnancy. YOu can read more about that here: The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method Can I check in with you about STI protection? While there are many contraceptive methods the only one that protects against STI transmission is condoms. Have you and your partner both recently had a full STI screening? If not, it's a really good idea to use condoms all the time until you both can get a screening. With insertion and removal of the nuvaring you have a grace period of 12 hours. You do want to make sure it's as close to the same time every time as possible, but you don't need to worry about the times when it's been a couple of hours off. Your irritation and soreness from intercourse could well be from too little lubrication. The tissues of the vulva are sensitive and can only take so much friction. This is especially the case with using condoms as they make more friction, which we really don't want because too much friction can make a condom break. Using plenty of water-based lubricant, available at any drugstore, should reduce or even eliminate your irritation. ...and it's okay to ask your boyfriend to stop. Sex is a partnership and if it's not fun for one of you then it's not fun for both.
Member # 95940
posted 06-03-2012 04:12 PM
And yes I got tested after I started my sexual experience with him. We where both virgins before we started, but one can never be so sure, so I went ahead and got tested. It came out clean. And again thank you, this was very helpful.
Member # 49582
posted 06-07-2012 01:22 AM
You're absolutely right, it's a sound idea to be tested for STIs before we've engaged in any partnered sex at all.
Just a reminder that when we talk about STI tests it's always best to say negative tests are 'clear' rather than 'clean' - 'cause 'clean' implies people with STIs are 'dirty' - and we know that just isn't true! [ 06-07-2012, 01:23 AM: Message edited by: Rei ]