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Phoenix2784
Member # 58170
posted 03-14-2012 11:03 AM
What constitutes a perfect mixed hormone birth control user? I usually take mine at 9:30 or 10pm but one day I took it around 2 or 2:30am. I'm uber scared I'm pregnant and an=m looking at the percent of effectiveness and am unsure of where I fall
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 03-14-2012 11:22 AM
From ourThree questions about taking the birth control pill (and plenty of answers) article: "A "missed" pill is one that was not taken within 24 hours of the last pill you took. A missed pill should always be taken as soon as you realize you have missed it, but there is likely no risk from one missed pill or a need for EC. A "late" pill varies more in definition amoung various sources, and to some degree from pill to pill, but with any type of pill, if you have taken a pill more than 12-24 hours late, you may want to consider using a backup method of birth control for the rest of your cycle to play it safe." Additionally, with the combination pill, three hours after the time when you normally take it is not considered late. Essentially, one late pill isn't too much to worry about. Does this help?
Phoenix2784
Member # 58170
posted 03-14-2012 11:26 AM
Would that put me in the "perfect" user category since it was only 3 or 4 hours?
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 03-14-2012 11:34 AM
Yes, I think it would. It's good to remember that those numbers are--well, they're only numbers. They're statistics based on specific research so it's hard to say with certainty that each individual who uses the pill perfectly has specifically 1% of risk. But yes, you are using the Pill in the most ideal way to get the results you want. You are using one of the most effective forms of birth control and you're using it in the most effective way.
Phoenix2784
Member # 58170
posted 03-14-2012 11:38 AM
So if my boyfriend and I had no penetration but I'm 96% sure none of his semen got near my vagina, there would be no way I could get pregnant from that? I'm just really worried that I could be pregnant.
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 03-14-2012 11:57 AM
Was there genital-to-genital contact? Between you being it on the pill and taking it properly, and there likely not being contact between your vulva and his ejaculate the posibility of you being pregnant is very, very, very unlikely. Is there something that makes you worry that you might be pregnant?
September
Member # 25425
posted 03-14-2012 11:58 AM
There is never "no way" - even when you use contraception, we can never rule out the risk of pregnancy with 100% certainty. But if you use the pill as directed, your risk is very, very low.
Phoenix2784
Member # 58170
posted 03-14-2012 12:05 PM
He was on top of me and he tried to enter me but ended up just sliding across the mons. Last night he tried again but I wouldn't let him. I'm afraid that some semen could have gotten on my downstairs area. There was no penetration but I'm still scared in case he did cum near my vagina, which I'm pretty sure he didn't but there is that what if.
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 03-14-2012 12:11 PM
Since you have taken the pill so consistently, your risk is very very low. If it would make you feel more comfortable, you can take a pregnancy test 14 days after the suspected risk occurred. What do you think of using condoms in addition to taking the pill? It sounds like taking the Pill doesn't quite feel secure enough for you. One of the benefits of using two methods of birth control is that if one is compromised the other one is there. Again, you're an effective pill-taker. Here's so more info on using two methods at once.The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method
Phoenix2784
Member # 58170
posted 03-14-2012 12:21 PM
I want to use condoms but he never makes the effort to put on one. I even went out and bought them. He just never wants to use one so I won't allow him to penetrate. I know that the pill always has my back but I have no clue how to bring the condoms with my boyfriend
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 03-14-2012 12:32 PM
Just so I'm clear, you would like to use condoms but your boyfriend isn't interested. Do you think that you two can have a conversation about this where you explain to him how important it is and how much better you would feel? You shouldn't have to feel anxious after a sexual encounter. The idea of being sexual with our partners is to feel good, not to worry. One thing that can be very helpful when having these kinds of conversations with our partners is to have them at a time when we're not being sexual,, when it can be about the conversation and not about sexual feelings and desires.Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner Whoa, There! How to Slow Down When You're Moving Too Fast
Phoenix2784
Member # 58170
posted 03-14-2012 12:40 PM
I would love use them. I've done the buddy method in the past and it really kept my mind at ease because I wasn't relying on only these little pills.I'm extremely worried about getting pregnant because I'm in college and am DEFINITELY not ready for a kid.
Robin Lee
Member # 90293
posted 03-14-2012 02:36 PM
If this is so important to you, and hurray to you for knowing what you want and don't want, sounds like it's time to chat with your boyfriend. Sometimes worries like these can build up and negatively impact our sexuality and our relationships. The two articles I linked you to above can give you some info to get you started with how to approach a conversation with your boyfriend, and we can definitely talk about that more. What has your boyfriend said when you've discussed this before?