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Member # 75601
posted 08-29-2011 12:08 AM
I'm so sorry that I keep freaking out about this, but I feel like I keep getting more and more symptoms that seem like pregnancy symptoms to me!!
For the past two or three days, I feel like I've been peeing a lot more than usual. I'm not sure if I actually have been, but it seems like I do. I've heard this can be a pregnancy symptom. Is it?? Or am I just being paranoid?? I also have another question. I went to the doctor recently and found out I have had bacterial vaginosis for the last couple of weeks. Three days ago I started taking medication for it in the form of a vaginal gel that I insert (kind of like a tampon) into myself. This is around the same time I started to feel like I was peeing more often than usual. Is that feeling due to the medication I'm taking?? Also, I still can't escape the feeling that I might possibly be pregnant. Can I talk to someone about how I feel? Please, I really just need someone to talk to
Member # 25425
posted 08-29-2011 02:29 AM
I am so sorry you are still feeling this worried.
Have you checked the insert that came with your medication for possible side-effects? It's also possible that you are just paying more attention to your body, and that's why it seems like you're going to the bathroom more often: when we're ill, we tend to get monitor our bodies more closely. You can absolutely talk to us about how you feel. Are you still worried about the situation you described here? Do you still feel unclear about why it is unlikely for those situations to pose a pregnancy risk? We can also talk why you feel so worried about a pregnancy. What do you think would happen if you were actually pregnant? Have you thought at all about what you would do in the event of an unplanned pregnancy? Have you spoken with your partner about this at all? [ 08-29-2011, 02:30 AM: Message edited by: September ]
Member # 75601
posted 08-31-2011 08:26 AM
Yeah, I guess in a way I'm still unclear about why those situations are unlikely to cause a pregnancy. Mostly I'm not sure whether or not pre-ejaculate is something to worry about when it comes to pregnancy. Whenever my boyfriend and I have fooled around in the past, the only fluid he's ever released is pre-ejaculate, but I still feel like somehow it's going to have sperm in it. And I'm also still unsure about why there has to be direct contact between semen and the vagina, and why it has to be semen in order for there to be pregnancy as opposed to pre-ejaculate also being an option.
The reason I'm so worried about a pregnancy is because I am NOT ready to have a child right now! I'm actually really, really bad with kids! Plus, I'm just about to start my senior year of high school, and I don't want to have to throw away a wonderful year of my life because of some child that I'm not ready for. And I really don't know what would happen if I were actually pregnant...I'm so scared of it. I don't even know how I would begin to tell my parents. I'm so afraid that my mom especially would be ashamed of me or would look down upon me or something. Also, I have another general question: is it possible to get pregnant on your period? My boyfriend and I were fooling around on the second day of my period. I gave him a hand-job, but he was wearing his underwear and he didn't ejaculate. However, some pre-ejaculate may have gotten on my hands or possibly his hands. He never had any direct contact with my genitals, only through underwear. Does this pose a pregnancy risk??
Member # 3
posted 08-31-2011 09:27 AM
It keeps sounding to me like your feelings about this are trying to tell you that it just might not be the right time for you to be engaging in any kind of genital sex with a partner. There are times in our lives when it's just not the right time for that, after all, based on a variety of issues and situations. But if we keep dealing with constant anxiety and stress about it, chances are awfully good that something -- whatever it is -- is amiss when it comes to that really being right for us.
Know what I mean? So, I'd strongly suggest reconsidering this for you right now. I think your gut feelings are suggesting the same thing, but you're perhaps not hearing them or listening in a way that's most likely to really benefit you. People need to know there are potential pregnancy and STI risks ANY TIME they are people with two different sets of reproductive organs who have genital contact with each others fluids, including pre-ejaculate. How high or low those risks are does vary, based on what, if any, contraception methods are being used, what kind of contact that is, and what kind of fluid we're talking about (because yes, pre-ejaculate will pose a much smaller risk, but we can never say none). And yes, it is possible to become pregnant due to those kinds of contact that occur during a menstrual period. But again, seems like most of the time you're not asking about the kinds of risks likely at all to create a risk of pregnancy. Which, again, strongly suggests to me that all the facts in the world aren't likely to help you out here, it's your choices for yourself you need to get in better alignment with what you really feel ready to handle and want to handle at this time in your life when you've made clear that potential unwanted consequences of sex are just NOT okay with you, at all.
Member # 75601
posted 08-31-2011 01:27 PM
I think you're absolutely right: I don't think I'm really ready to handle the kinds of things I've been doing. The problem is that I like the way it feels, but then I'm too stressed and scared in the aftermath. Is this normal? And how do I deal with that?
And thank you so much to both of you for listening to what I have to say. I feel so much better
Member # 3
posted 08-31-2011 06:29 PM
Sex can feel awesome physically but still not be something that's right for us. If it was only about physical pleasure, sexual decisions would be WAY less complex than they tend to be. But it's not.
As you know, sex can also have outcomes of all kinds after it's done, and those outcomes or the possibility of them can absolutely be things that sometimes we just cannot deal with, or just don't freaking want to, so we decide that that time is just not the time for sex yet. Then we either just focus on other things or, if we really want to have sex be something we can engage in, we figure out what we need to be okay with those possible outcomes or really reduce them well, and focus on taking care of whatever those things are.