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pocket_mouse_531
Member # 75601
posted 08-21-2011 08:01 PM
I'm so sorry I keep freaking out about this, but talking it out really helps me. Okay so today, I've been in this really weird, depressed, kinda glum mood, and I have no idea why. I've been stressed out about the possibility of pregnancy (see my other posts on this forum), but I haven't felt this particular mood as a result of that. Also, starting today as well, my breasts are a little sore. I was supposed to get my period yesterday, but didn't. This is actually normal for me; my period never comes on time. Mostly it's late, sometimes it's early. As I've said on other posts, I've been worried for two weeks about possibly being pregnant because I'm not quite sure whether or not any pre-ejaculate was ever on my boyfriend's fingers when he rubbed both my clitoris and my underwear. I have never been fingered. I know this sounds highly unlikely for a pregnancy, but I'm still scared. Are these symptoms that I'm feeling pregnancy symptoms, or just plain old PMS?? Please help!!
pocket_mouse_531
Member # 75601
posted 08-22-2011 12:20 AM
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KatWA
Member # 42505
posted 08-22-2011 12:16 PM
How are you charting your cycle? If your period is "mostly late" then that is actually not "late" but regular... The first symptom people usually experience of pregnancy is a missed period, so it's very unlikely you would be feeling any pregnancy symptoms yet. Pregnancy requires direct ejaculate-to-vulva contact which you didn't have here. Have you read these articles yet?Where DID I Come From? A Refresher Course in Human Reproduction Pregnancy Scared?
pocket_mouse_531
Member # 75601
posted 08-23-2011 02:26 AM
Well I don't think I know how to do it right, but whenever I get my period, I just count 28 days and say that that date is approximately the next date of my period. When do people start feeling pregnancy symptoms? (moodiness, morning sickness, achey swollen breasts, etc) And what are some other common symptoms of pregnancy? Also, yes, I have read those articles you posted, but I'm still scared anyway. Is the clitoris not part of the vulva? Also, does pre-ejaculate-to-vulva contact cause pregnancy? Sorry for asking so many quesions! Thank you for your time
KatWA
Member # 42505
posted 08-23-2011 03:02 PM
Not everyone's cycle is 28 days long. The proper way to chart your cycle is to mark down the first day of your period on a calendar. After a few months you can count the days in between and see what your average cycle length is. Then you can know when to expect your period and if you are late. The clitoris is part of the vulva, yes, and pre-ejaculate counts. But it needs to be direct contact - not from the penis, to the finger, to the vulva, but directly ejaculated from the penis onto the vulva or in the vagina. There is no sense in worrying about "pregnancy symptoms" because that is not a reliable way to determine pregnancy. Not everyone has those symptoms, nor do they mean you are pregnant. The most reliable way to know you are pregnant is a pregnancy test.
pocket_mouse_531
Member # 75601
posted 08-24-2011 12:06 AM
Okay thanks! I'll try that method sometime Also, with regards to the whole direct contact thing, why does it have to be direct contact? And how reliable are home pregnancy tests? Specifically in my situation, is it enough to just take an HPT? Or should I see a doctor and get a blood pregnancy test done? Thanks for your help!
Heather
Member # 3
posted 08-24-2011 09:31 AM
Because sperm calls can't walk. In order to have mobility, sperm cells need for the fluid they are in to be able to flow, essentially, to where they need to go to create a pregnancy, and only in environments friendly to sperm. That can't happen, for example, if someone ejaculates on your ankle. In order for pregnancy to occur, that fluid needs to be deposited inside, on or very near the vagina to get to the cervix. Or, think about it this way. If we were taking a one-year-old to daycare, in order to assure they got there, we'd probably need to take them all the way in to their caretaker. We could leave them at the door, and that'd be irresponsible as hell, but so long as someone came and opened it, and no one kidnapped them, they'd still probably get there. But if we left them down the street? Not so much. That was a bit of a whack comparison, and it kind of creeped me out, but hopefully you get the gist. Very few doctors do blood tests anymore for pregnancy (though when someone is pregnant, blood testing is done for other things). Clinics usually use urine tests just like everyone else, and then, when it's been long enough, sonograms/ultrasounds. The home pregnancy tests you can buy are as reliable as clinic urine tests: the only difference is the room for user error. So, they're as effective as they say on the box, so long as you follow the instructions to the letter.
pocket_mouse_531
Member # 75601
posted 08-24-2011 10:16 AM
Thank you for that! I have one last question though. In my case, I'm not certain whether or not any pre-ejaculatory fluid touched my vulva. Worst-case scenario: if it did touch my vulva (and if it did, it probably would've been the upper part, away from the vaginal opening), what are my chances of getting pregnant?
Heather
Member # 3
posted 08-24-2011 10:26 AM
We can't possibly give the kind of estimate you're asking for. All anyone can say without literally having information on things like a long history of your fertility cycles, a partner's sperm count and more is that we know that if and when there IS a) direct penis-to-vulva contact and/or b) direct contact between your genitals and semen, there is a possible risk. It'd obviously be awesome if we could give people more specific information than that, but seriously, we'd be pulling it out of our butts and just making things up if we tried in such general ways like this.
pocket_mouse_531
Member # 75601
posted 08-24-2011 11:47 PM
Thank you so much! I'm sorry, I know you can't give me an estimate. It was silly of me to ask :3 I do have another question though. I keep seeing that there is a chance of pregnancy when there is direct semen-to-vulva/vagina contact. Is there a chance of pregnancy if there is pre-ejaculate either touching the vulva (not the vaginal opening) from someone's fingers or if there is pre-ejaculate getting onto my underwear? I'm sorry I keep asking so many questions!
Stephanie_1
Member # 36725
posted 08-25-2011 12:20 PM
Honestly, for there to be a viable risk with fingering, you're talking about fingers dripping with fresh ejaculate. And per underwear, if they're really thin(like lace underwear) and a guy ejaculated there could be some risk there, yes. But otherwise not a viable risk.
pocket_mouse_531
Member # 75601
posted 08-27-2011 01:31 AM
Well here's the thing: I wasn't actually fingered. I have never been penetrated before (except for masturbation). If there was any pre-ejaculate on my boyfriend's fingers when he touched my vulva (and I'm not sure if there was, but there's a possibility), am I at risk for being pregnant? Neither my boyfriend nor I has ever orgasmed (come) before.
pocket_mouse_531
Member # 75601
posted 08-29-2011 12:12 AM
Hello?
KatWA
Member # 42505
posted 08-29-2011 12:29 PM
Stephanie already answered your question... Is there a part you are having trouble understanding?