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Member # 49242
posted 06-22-2011 09:17 PM
I tried to be as serious as I could I'm not joking or trying to exaggerate anywhere in this. I hope I don't give that impression.
I'm a virgin so this has never happend to me myself, but I've heard stories from different people all basically the same about a girlfriend/wife who hates having sex with her husband/boyfriend because it hurts her because the guys penis is too big. I've never had sexual intercourse but different girls I've known have seen my penis and all said I'm really "thick" or "wide". I actually wasn't worried about being "small" before it was seen because I thought "I have to be big becasue if I was any bigger I really would worry I might hurt somebody" and a girl I told this to who's seen it responded "if I was any wider I would hurt somebody" and we weren't flirting at the time or anything either that was her honest opinion and I know all the females who seen my penis would be able to tell and know. How much would a guy's penis have to be to hurt a girl during sexual intercouse? I'm not really sure how to measure width but length I'm 6 3/4 inches fully erect; and doing stuff with these girls I realized I'm naturally aggressive, I really like being "rough" and would be during sex so I know that wouldn't help the situation so that adds worry. Because I'm worried about my wife or girl not wanting sex with me because for her it hurts could happen one day, or happen with me often. [ 06-22-2011, 09:28 PM: Message edited by: T24 ]
Member # 3
posted 06-23-2011 08:13 AM
We always take everyone seriously here, no worries.
So, here's the thing: the vagina is very elastic. It's much less so, though, when someone with a vagina isn't relaxed and aroused enough before anyone tries to put anything in it, or when someone doesn't stay aroused throughout activities like intercourse. On the other hand, when a person is very aroused and relaxed, penis size often is not an issue. Many people try to do intercourse without enough arousal and relaxation, or are hasty about it, rushing in. When that's the case, it's often not going to feel good and can be painful, no matter what size penis someone has. However, with a larger penis, that will ted to be all the more uncomfortable. Many people also don't realize that a lot of the time, folks need to be using extra lubrication with activities with entry like intercourse. Again, when things aren't slippery enough, things can feel uncomfortable no matter what, but can be all the more so with a larger sized penis or object. Same goes about being too rough. One thing you need to know is that when we're having sex with someone else, sex has to be about both of us and what works for both of us. Some people, or some people sometimes, will enjoy very aggressive intercourse or other kinds of sex. Some people, or some people sometimes, will not. So, it's key partners don't ever come to sex with my-way-or-the-highway approaches. In other words, just because you like something (or think you will) a certain way doesn't mean you will always choose to do it that way if your partner does not also want and like that at that time. Instead, if you're being a real partner, you're going to have sex in ways that feel good to both of you, not just to you. Make sense?
Member # 69019
posted 06-26-2011 01:05 AM
[ 06-26-2011, 01:06 AM: Message edited by: orose37 ]
Member # 25425
posted 06-26-2011 02:56 AM
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Member # 69019
posted 06-26-2011 04:07 AM
quote: Originally posted by September: (Orose - this section of the boards is for volunteer and staff replies only. You're welcome to post on the rest of the boards.) Oh it is? SORRY I'm really new and just randomly clicked...how do I delete my post? I'm not sure how...sorry!!
Member # 49242
posted 06-27-2011 12:30 AM
Yeah it really does. So its more than likely just like you said things probably weren't slippery enough. But what if that wasn't the problem? I guess im saying is there really a such thing as just being too wide or long period?
Member # 3
posted 06-27-2011 07:39 AM
That's not likely because it's not like there is only one way to have intercourse.
Like I said, when you hear the kinds of anecdotes you do, that usually has a LOT to do with the dynamics of people's sex lives, and things like partners not taking the time really needed for both to be fully aroused (not just the person with the penis), using enough lubricant, and communicating during intercourse and responding to that communication to do things like not go more deep than feels good to a receptive partner or be too hasty or push too fast, etc. It usually has to do with partners not remembering that they're not the only person there, and that they don't get to be "naturally aggressive" in sex if their partner doesn't like that or find it feels good: when we have sexual partners, we need to be seeking middle ground in what feels good to both of us. That's part of what partnered sex is when it's really, truly, partnered sex. I should also add that what you're stating about the length of your penis still has you awfully close to being of an average size: that length is only an inch or so outside the typical average.
Member # 49242
posted 06-27-2011 12:40 PM
Oh, okay that really is fine. Thanks