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celeste
Member # 59522
posted 03-20-2011 01:33 AM
Hi, I'm 21 years old and my boyfriend and I have just started having sex. We've done it about once a month for the last three to four months, and I haven't had any problems then. A few days ago, we had sex again without planning it out, and it was unprotected. We practiced coitus interruptus to take care of that (Yes, I know it's not fool-proof, and we're going to be careful not to make that mistake again) When I came back home after that, I felt a strange tickling feeling inside my vagina. It didn't hurt, in fact, it felt slightly pleasurable. I put my finger inside myself and masturbated to deal with the tickling sensation, even though I felt slightly sore. The next morning, the sensation persisted and I found myself masturbating again. After a few hours, my periods started. The sensation remained and now it was starting to get uncomfortable simply because it wouldn't go away. Again, it didn't hurt in the slightest. Neither did it itch, it just felt like there was something inside me and I desperately wanted to touch it. Since I had my periods and everything felt tender inside, I couldn't do that and felt restless the entire day. I tried rubbing the entrance of my vagina a few times and it felt slightly better. The next day, the feeling decreased to the point where it was almost gone. I'm still nervous it will come back, and besides I don't want it to happen again. I'd also like to know exactly what happened. Neither of us have had any sexual partners before each other (and I trust him entirely on this) I discussed it with him and he was worried that my cervix might have ruptured because he was too rough, or that he might have given me some sort of rash. Is this possible? His penis does not show any signs of a rash. Also, is it possible for people to have STIs or STDs if they've never had sex (or any kind of sexual activity) with anyone before? We live in a culture where pre marital sex is still taboo, and having a boyfriend or girlfriend even at our age is still frowned upon by a large section of the older generation - this makes it difficult for me to ask a question like thos to anyone I know. Hoping to hear from someone soon. Thank you!
Stephanie_1
Member # 36725
posted 03-20-2011 07:35 PM
Hello celeste, Welcome to Scarleteen! Sometimes different things feel different for people. Just so you know from the get-go we’re not doctors, and what we say here can’t substitute for doctor’s advice. From what you’re saying with the feeling not being pain nor really an itch, it’s difficult to say what it would be (too? Given it’s gone now it’s unlikely you’d be able to ask a doc, though you can always ask if you get it again just to have them check it out.) What it may have been was if you didn’t use lubricant (which it’s sounding like you may not have given you didn’t plan on having sex then) it may have been actually an itch, even if it didn’t feel the typical “itchiness” from the friction (as in without the lubricant it was rubbed a little raw). I don’t see any reason to worry about it being something serious, given it did go away and was not a pain feeling. If you notice it again though, and any other symptoms (like itchiness, odd or smelly discharge) just get it looked into. While it’s less common for STIs without any type of sex with another partner, it’s not impossible (since some can be passed during birth, carrying, etc.) – so we always suggest just going ahead and getting tested anyway. [ 03-20-2011, 07:35 PM: Message edited by: Stephanie_1 ]
celeste
Member # 59522
posted 03-21-2011 07:42 AM
Hi Stephanie, thanks a lot. Getting hold of lubricant would be a problem, I guess a lubricated condom would suffice? Getting tested for STI's would also be difficult, I'd rather not unless absolutely necessary. What does "carrying" mean with reference to how an STI can be passed without having had sex?
Heather
Member # 3
posted 03-21-2011 10:28 AM
If you and your partner are mutually monogamous, both have never had any other sexual partners (for any kind of sex) are both uninfected and use latex barriers, your risk of STIs is incredibly low. The trouble with going unprotected without testing is that, unfortunately, people simply are often not honest about their sexual history. So, while we know getting tested can be difficult, especially in some areas, we're always going to advise it with unprotected sex with partners who have not been recently tested. (I'm not sure how Stephanie was using "carrying" in that context, so she'll have to clear that up for you.)
celeste
Member # 59522
posted 03-22-2011 11:13 AM
Thanks, Heather. When I do get the opportunity to get tested comfortably, I will.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 03-22-2011 11:16 AM
You know about the Marie Stopes clinics in India, yes?http://www.scarleteen.com/node/3441
celeste
Member # 59522
posted 03-22-2011 11:50 PM
I didn't, thanks, I will check it out!