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grizzly_boy
Member # 44932
posted 12-07-2009 08:58 PM
Hello there. I'm new to the forum. I tried the search and didn't find anything about this, but forgive me if I missed something. My question is: how do I bring up topics like sex and "down there" with my friend (1 yr older then me). A while ago I had an issue in my genital area. It turned out to be nothing, but I'm curious if my friend has experienced anything similar. Also, I'm not quite used to this forum software. What is a "Graemlin"?
bluejumprope
Member # 40774
posted 12-13-2009 11:29 AM
Hi Grizzly and Welcome to Scarleteen. Sorry you haven't gotten an answer sooner. I think it's great that you want to have those sorts of conversations with your friend. Personally, I usually find it easiest to start conversations that I feel awkward about by acknowledging that I feel that way. For example, "There's something I've been wanting to ask you about, but I feel sort of weird about it." I like beginning that way because it helps me get talking in the first place, and because it will usually cue the other person in to being receptive and make them feel more comfortable too. This article is geared more towards talking about sex with a partner, but there are some good tips for talking about sex with someone in general, like being aware of your environment:Be a Blabbermouth! The Whats, Whys and Hows of Talking About Sex With a Partner Graemlins are the more colorful representations of keyboard character smiles that appear here automatically, like You can see a list of the supported graemlins on this site here: http://www.scarleteen.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?/ubb/faq.html
grizzly_boy
Member # 44932
posted 12-13-2009 11:43 AM
Hi and thanks for your reply. I was just dying to talk with him so I went ahead and did it anyway. I didn't want to ask him verbally in front of my friends so I wrote him a note asking him if we could talk after school. He nodded yes and we did. When he asked me what was on my mind, I wrote down the topic. He said "ahhh... I kinda know what you mean". I then bluntly told him what was going on. To my surprise, he was just SO open to talking about this stuff. A lot of my friends my age kind of freak out when I bring up those topics. Does this sound like a good strategy? Thanks again for your response. BTW, it wasn't so much about sex. I just wanted to know if he has had a similar problem "down there" to the one I had. I only put sex in my first post so you guys got the general idea of what I was talking about. [ 12-13-2009, 11:46 AM: Message edited by: grizzly_boy ]
bluejumprope
Member # 40774
posted 12-13-2009 11:53 AM
That sounds like an awesome strategy. I'm so glad it went well.
grizzly_boy
Member # 44932
posted 12-13-2009 12:52 PM
Cool:) Thanks so much for the reply!