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Member # 35393
posted 11-11-2007 06:08 PM
I know I've posted before with the same question, but I felt like clarifying this one and hopefully getting some more answers.
I'm 13, and I'm a girl. I've always wanted to be a boy. I don't like stereotypical masculine things most of the time, but I absolutely HATE dresses/skirts and makeup and stuff. D: I feel like I should have been born a gay man. I want to get my hair cut and dress like a guy. I'm scared that my friends and family and stuff would think it's weird, even though I know they're all pretty much accepting of me and stuff. I told my 2 closest friends that I thought I was bisexual, one of them was okay with it and the other one said it was "just hormones". I'm still not entirely sure of my sexual orientation or my gender identity. Aack! I'm so confused
Member # 35773
posted 11-13-2007 03:54 AM
I went through a time where I felt similar to what you're describing (I'm biologically female and 18). As I got a little older and learned more about gender and gender idenity, I started to warm up to the idea of not having to "act" like a girl all the time. I started doing things like wearing a suit instead of a dress for my piano recitals, and even to my Homecoming dance my senior year of high school. Where I'm at now, gender-wise, is that I simply don't identify with being either male or female. I'm happy to live as a biological female (with the exception of that one special week out of the month) and have people know me as a young woman, but I've also managed to shake off the pressure I used to feel to "act more feminine" or wear lots of skirts and pretty dresses. I dress how I want (which is sometimes more masculine, and sometimes more feminine) and am fortunate enough to have friends and family who understand and are accepting.
I guess something that made life a little easier for me was to stop getting caught up in labels. When I stopped constantly asking myself "Am I a girl? Am I transgendered? Am I a freak?" and just started being myself and doing what felt right, I was a lot happier. Now, I'm not saying that this is going to be you. I'm just sharing my experience. My best advice is to just be yourself and do what feels right.
Member # 35631
posted 11-18-2007 02:09 AM
Yeah don't think for a second that you have to act girly. Just because those around you might be comfortable with you wearing frilly clothes, makeup, and having long hair, doesn't mean that YOU're comfortable. You should feel free to do whatever you want regarding that sort of thing. So, work on feeling free to reject the things society expects of you based upon your sex and be true to yourself.
Member # 41657
posted 12-24-2008 04:22 PM
Don't feel like there is anything you have to do because of your sex, if you want to wear trousers and shorts (or maybe some kind of kilt that only men have historically worn), go for it, wear suits if you want, wear a fake moustache if you want, wear your hair short if you want, don't wax if you want, wear no makeup if you want. These things are up to you.
Member # 43709
posted 08-14-2009 12:26 AM
There's a small difference between being a guy and being like a guy. Because, a girl who is like a guy is still very much a girl, biologically. I am bisexual and I find girls who dress/act like guys to be very attractive (that is, have short hair, less makeup, harsher voices, and boyish dress styles), not to say that I don't like more feminine girls, too. The point is, to reiterate what else was said here, you don't have to label yourself as a guy or a girl, or as like a guy or like a girl. You're just you.