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Member # 44781
posted 01-03-2010 12:49 AM
I am already on Yasmin birth control and have been for about 9 months. I want to have sex with my boyfriend of 4 years for the first time but I'm a paranoid freak when it comes to getting pregnant. He's going to wear a condom and pull out before he ejaculates but are there any other methods of protecting myself from pregnancy?
Member # 28346
posted 01-03-2010 02:17 AM
Using both the birth control pill and a condom would have you pretty protected. For the actual stats on that see this: The Buddy System: Effectiveness Rates for Backing Up Your Birth Control With a Second Method Also, read this if you haven't already: Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist Of course, no form of birth control is absolutely 100% effective, but you can't get much better than the "buddy system." As the article I linked above says, we don't advice becoming sexually active unless you are sure that you can deal with the chance (however slim that is) of becoming pregnant. So just something for you to read and decide for yourself.
Member # 45250
posted 01-04-2010 12:05 PM
May I also suggest non-penetrative sex (such as mutual masturbation, handjobs/blowjobs/cunnulingus) and fingering especially if both of you are new to the game (the pregnancy risk is negligible if there is NO penetration, he shoots his semen on himself and any semen is promptly cleaned off with a wet wipe.)
Member # 44781
posted 01-21-2010 12:02 AM
Thank you! We've done mutual masturbation, handjobs, blowjobs and fingering and we wanted to take our relationship to the next level.
But I think we were pretty safe. We had sex with a condom and he pulled out before he ejaculated and I'm on the pill. Do you think adding a spermicide will decrease the chance of getting pregnant even more?
Member # 37835
posted 01-21-2010 06:45 AM
No. Spermicide alone is not very effective, and so it won't significantly increase your pregnancy protection, though it may increase your odds of certain types of vaginal infections, since spermicide throws off the natural chemical balance in the vagina.
Member # 45259
posted 02-07-2010 01:16 AM
I noticed that you commented on my "Chicken Soup for the Paranoid soul" post...I hate that people like us have to worry so much about being pregnant. it seems like the people who are being safest about protecting themselves against pregnancy are the ones who worry most about it! Whenever I worry, I just try and think logically. The good thing with condoms is that you can SEE visually that none of the guys "fluids" have gotten inside you, so I find that that really really helps. I had wondered before if there was any way that semen could leak through a little microscopic hole in the condom without me noticing, but I researched it and I found out that when they break, you can reaaally tell haha. Also, I know that there are stories about people getting pregnant while on the pill and using condoms all the time, but usually those people aren't as careful with taking the pill as you (And me :] ) are, so they'll be more likely to take it really late or to not take it at all. Whenever I get a random feeling of "Oh god...what if I'm pregnant" I just think to myself that there isn't any way that I would be if I was taking the pills perfectly and using a condom. The success rate for birth control pills is about 99.98-99% right? If there was a lottery with a 99% chance that you would win, wouldn't you buy a ticket? It seems that with everything else in life, when something is 99% guaranteed, we don't worry about that extra one percent anymore than necesary. You've just got to distract yourself, and try not to become too stressed out! Whenever I get stressed my stomach starts to hurt and then I think "Oh my god, that's the baby!" , but then I realise that I'm being ridiculous, and am able to forget about it and move on with my day. Also, (I'm sorry about this incredibly long reply) you posted something about sex not feeling good for you? I had the EXACT same problem. I usually never finished, and was sort of dissapointed by sex in general. Try some different positions, the angle of everything helps ENORMOUSLY. Also, I've found that I can orgasm much easier the second time we have sex. Say if we have sex then have sex again 30 minutes to an hour later, it seems I am almost guaranteed to climax! Weird lol, but maybe it will help. Our situations are so paralell, it's almost freaky. Take care, hope I was able to help you a little bit!!!
Member # 44781
posted 02-11-2010 10:18 PM
Thank you so much for your advice! I'm so glad I have someone to relate to. I don't know anyone else who is on birth control and takes them religiously like I do and uses condoms. I still freak myself out when my stomach feels weird or if I feel like I have to pee more often. But I always think there's no one I could have gotten pregnant because the odds were against me.
I wish I didn't have this paranoia! It's so annoying. I know I can't get pregnant if I take my birth control faithfully, he uses a condom and he pulls out before he ejaculates. But I always look online and read stories that scare the crap out of me. I need to stop doing that. People always say they got pregnant even when taking the pill perfectly and using condoms. I guess I shouldn't believe them.
Member # 45835
posted 02-15-2010 07:13 PM
It would be very very rare for theses people to have become pregnant. The pill and condom is very effective and that is in fact what I use.
Member # 44781
posted 02-21-2010 04:37 PM
And you've never gotten pregnant? I want to have sex but I don't want the stress of being worried that I could possibly have gotten pregnant.
Member # 3
posted 02-21-2010 04:51 PM
Sarah, I need to be honest with you: there will always be people who have gotten pregnant using ANY method of birth control, because NO method is 100% effective, even doubled up.
So, whether Raider.Gal had or hadn't wouldn't actually tell you much about whether or not you would or wouldn't. Anecdotal information about who does or doesn't become pregnant just isn't as reliable as actual studies on methods. have you looked at the effectiveness rates for both methods and both combined? Cam you see looking at those documented rates what the real risks are and are not?