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Post A Reply Login Name: Password: Message Icon:                                                                       Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled. UBB Code™ Images not permitted. [QUOTE]Originally posted by acs79: [QB] I used abstinence for religious reasons until I got married (to someone of the same religion--he was abstinent too). But no matter how committed you are to your faith, whatever it is, abstinence is pretty damn hard! So the pros of abstinence is that you don't have to worry about anything at all. A guy (or girl) might leave you because of it, but if they don't respect your decisions--especially ones dealing with your body and, in the case of pregnancy, your whole life--then they aren't worth it anyway. Plus, if you're really committed to it, you don't end up doing anything that you don't want to do. Cons: It can be really hard, not just because you really, really want to give in, but also because there's a lot of social pressure not to be abstinent. And some people that you date don't like it. But that's their problem, ultimately. There is another con, though, mainly among people who practice absolute abstinence (until they get married or find "the one" or whatever). One thing that I noticed among people in my religion who practice abstinence is that they are completely uneducated about sex and their bodies and the bodies of the other gender, which I think is a really, really dumb idea that leads to you feeling uncomfortable, embarrassed, and afraid of sex. If you're going to practice abstinence, don't practice ignorance along with it. Educate yourself about safe sex, about the implications of sex (physical and emotional), about your body, and about what kinds of sexual experiences you like and you don't like. That said, both my husband and I thought it was pretty hilarious that when we finally had sex, we were about as practiced as some 13 year olds. We learned quickly... [/QB][/QUOTE]

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