T O P I C R E V I E W
Member # 90293
posted 04-26-2013 12:27 PM
So much of life is about waiting. some of the things people find themselves waiting for that come up here at the boards are:
* Waiting for menstrual periods that don't arrive when we think they should *Waiting for medical test results. * Waiting to see if a particular physical problem subsides on its own, gets worse, or remains the same so that we can make decisions on what to do about it. * Waiting for someone to get back to us, be it a partner, friend, parent, healthcare provider, or staff and volunteers here at the boards. * Delaying partnered sexual experiences for physical or mental health reasons, even though we really want them now. I'm sure you can think of other instances in life where you've found that there really is no other option but wait. With microwave meals, instant messaging, ATMs, etc, it's pretty easy to get used to not having to wait for things. There are just some things, though, including what I listed above, that no technology can speed up. The end result? WE have no choice but to wait. What I'm wondering is: What ways have you found to effectively cope with waiting? IN other words, how have you learned, and how do you practice, patience?
moonlight bouncing off water
Member # 44338
posted 04-26-2013 02:41 PM
Well if its something that I can do absolutely nothing about until whatever I am waiting for happens I try to distract myself since thinking about it is only going to make it worse.
If it is something where I must wait until I have done enough work to be able to do the given thing, I do the work!
Member # 101745
posted 04-26-2013 06:17 PM
Keeping busy is the best thing I've found to do while waiting in any moderate- to high-stress situation.
What works well for me is something that doesn't require too much focus - if I'm a little distracted by what I'm waiting for, I don't want to be frustrated if I can't focus completely on something more intense - but is engaging enough to mostly take my mind off of whatever I'm waiting on. Usually my best bets are reading something fun, taking a walk, asking my partner or friend do so something social with me, knitting while I watch a silly movie, or baking something. Sometimes, it takes a while to take that anxious waiting feeling and be able to set it aside until the issue is resolved, but I do find that conscious effort to distract myself goes a long way.