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BBB23
Member # 100622
posted 12-28-2012 09:38 PM
Hi there, I have a question about the cervix... I know it's supposed to retract when a person is aroused but recently I even gave myself an orgasm but when I put my fingers in, I could still feel my cervix. Is it possible that my cervix won't retract for me?
eryn_smiles
Member # 35643
posted 12-29-2012 06:08 PM
Did your cervix seem to be at the same position as when you're not aroused? It could be that your cervix retracted a certain amount but you could still feel it higher up? Is this something you notice during sex with a partner?
smittenkitten
Member # 2297
posted 12-29-2012 08:01 PM
Hi BBB, While the shape and function of our sexual organs is generally similar, there are variations between everyone. Did you experience any pain or tenderness when you touched your cervix? I wouldn't worry too much about its position unless it's causing you discomfort during sex. Marion
BBB23
Member # 100622
posted 01-21-2013 09:05 AM
Thank you both for your replies! I'm sorry I didn't see them earlier. My boyfriend and I haven't yet engaged in penetrative intercourse but the idea that him hitting cervix (i.e. something going wrong the first time) was partly holding me back. I really appreciate your answers
BBB23
Member # 100622
posted 01-21-2013 09:08 AM
Also no there was no pain at all!
BBB23
Member # 100622
posted 01-21-2013 06:29 PM
So, from reading your replies I'm wondering that if, even if I can feel my cervix after masturbation/arousal it may not necessarily be a problem during actual intercourse? I'm sorry for asking so many questions but its just something that makes me extremely nervous about my first time with boyfriend! I appreciate all the help I'm getting!
Onionpie
Member # 41699
posted 01-22-2013 07:36 PM
Well everyone's bodies differ, as Marion said. And during any sex, including vaginal intercourse, it's important to keep that in mind and thus prepare for and respond to differences like that. In other words, if you put aside thinking about doing it "right" or "put tab A into slot B", and instead leave room for "well tab A doesn't quite go into slot B at every angle" or one of the million other variations that happen during sex, there should be no reason for any kind of sex you have to "go wrong" It's all about enjoying your body with your partner, doing things -- and discovering the things -- that feel comfortable and good for both of you. There's no "wrong" way to do it, and I think it might make you feel a lot less nervous and even enjoy yourself more if you try to let go of the idea that it might not "work the right way" and instead embrace any way that works for YOU [ 01-22-2013, 07:37 PM: Message edited by: Onionpie ]
BBB23
Member # 100622
posted 01-23-2013 10:21 PM
Thank you so much for that! I think I really needed to hear that I've also realized that maybe having a talk with my partner about this anxiety might help as well. Thank you to all of you again, I really appreciate it!