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SweetAsCandy
Member # 96324
posted 07-27-2012 10:30 PM
I have bad self esteem and i try to not think so badly about myself but thats all i think. im about to be 16 on sunday july 29th, im 5ft 3in, long brown hair, brown eyes, 126 pounds, large chested, southern, a workoutaholic, and i always try hard. others say im pretty, nice, fun goin, and funny but in my eyes im ugly, stupid, fat, and somebody nobody likes, idk what to do anybody got ways to help with bad self esteem [ 07-27-2012, 10:32 PM: Message edited by: SweetAsCandy ]
September
Member # 25425
posted 07-28-2012 02:16 AM
I am sorry you are feeling so down on yourself, Sweet. I know it can sometimes be really difficult to be nice to ourselves and see our positive sides. But maybe you can think of one or two things that you like about yourself, that you think are special and beautiful: something you are good at, a talent that you have, an aspect of your body you really like, anything. Maybe we can also talk about where your ideas that you ugly or stupid come from. By whose standards are you judging? Has anyone ever said this about you before?
**Angel Eyes**
Member # 96324
posted 07-28-2012 07:21 PM
Thx. and a couple positive things are 1. I am a awesome hiphop dancer and even breakdance (i love dancin too) 2. I love my boobs and my lips. 3. i love how i am very responsible. But I cant think of much more. And yes when i was young i always had people say very harsh things like those and even from my cousins, friends i had and bullies (ive dealt with bullies forever), and even family i was around about 24/7. i honestly think i was a mistake but i also know i am here for a reason.
Sans
Member # 91788
posted 07-28-2012 08:25 PM
Hey, Angel Eyes. I'm really sorry to hear that people, especially those who were supposed to be supportive and loving of you, said such verbally abusive things to you! Your struggle with low self-esteem can likely be attributed to those awfully negative remarks that you were a recipient of when you were younger. It's perfectly understandable why you would be struggling. I'm so glad that you can identify some positive points about yourself! Yay for you! Keep doing things that help you to feel good about yourself, help you to feel empowered, and help you to learn more about your positive points. This can help you to get a clear idea of your positive attributes, and help you to understand that the negative things said about you are not true at all.
**Angel Eyes**
Member # 96324
posted 07-29-2012 12:01 AM
Hey Sans thank you so much! And I am glad somebody understands it has always been touch for me.
September
Member # 25425
posted 07-29-2012 07:59 AM
Those are some pretty awesome positive things about you! Do you take classes for your dancing? Do you ever dance with other people? Since this is something you feel so good about, I'm sure it would be good for your self esteem if you had the chance to develop your skills there, and get some support and recognition. I am also sorry to hear that you have been exposed to so much bullying. That sounds really hard. Does this bullying still continue? Have you ever had the chance to talk to someone about what you've been through? If you'd like to work through that and unlearn some of those negative message you've internalized, your school counselor would be a great person to talk to.
**Angel Eyes**
Member # 96324
posted 07-29-2012 10:41 AM
Thx and ever since i was little i have always been really good at hiphop dance never really took any classes it just came naturally to me and i go solo when i dance. I do many compations and i have won many of them. Dance comes from my heart. The bullying has gone on ever since i was little but it stopped about 2 monthes ago becuz this girl in the night school had me pinned to the wall hitting me and using very bad language towards me and for once i defended myself and faught back and she got kick out and i didnt get in trouble for only defending myself. I have been left alone ever since becuz people know i have the courage to defend myself and to speak up about it now.
**Angel Eyes**
Member # 96324
posted 07-29-2012 10:43 AM
I just need help findin positive things about myself its a big struggle
September
Member # 25425
posted 07-29-2012 11:22 AM
Go you for taking part in competitions! That takes a lot of courage and confidence, and I am glad to hear that you recognize your talent and have so much joy with it. I am also really glad to hear that you stood up to your bully and that she now no longer bothers you. I don't know about you, but from where I'm sitting, it sounds like you're a very strong, driven, confident person. And all of those are great qualities to have!
**Angel Eyes**
Member # 96324
posted 07-29-2012 10:46 PM
Well thank u i try hard in life i guess i need to see these in myself more and believe in who i am and love me for i am. thank u so much.