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Message: HTML is not enabled. UBB Code™ is enabled.	[QUOTE]Originally posted by copper86: [QB] I'm sorry about my misunderstanding, Atonement. I had read that you had partnered sex before; but that was later at night, and I guess in re-reading your post today, I didn't connect with that paragraph. I apologize! I can certainly relate to you about seeing other girls and feeling a bit self-conscious. But I think those feelings are common for many people - even the girls you see whom you think look "ideal" could easily be dealing with their own self-esteem battles. I know this is really tough; but instead of focusing on them, focus on what you like about yourself and maybe accentuate that a little bit. For instance, if you like your eyes, maybe wear something that complements their colour; or maybe try a different kind of make-up that highlights their colour. Try to remember that you have great qualities that others will find attractive and appealing. I can relate to you as well about how "some people have it so easy." And I've seen those people in action; but actually, with my friends, they had gone through some pretty tough stuff before the "easy" relationships - where they just clicked and fell in love - came along. One friend went through a 2-year relationship that fell apart; then ended up dating and marrying her friend. Sometimes I think she had it easy; but looking at her past relationship and how hard it was for her, I knew that she had come a long way to get to that "fun and easy" boyfriend (but if someone had just seen them together off the bat, they would've just assumed that she had things easier than others). I've also been in your position exactly; where I spent semesters on one guy or something and when it didn't work out, I was upset. It's normal to misread signals and to get confused. Sometimes, I think people who are just friendly in general can sometimes mislead us without meaning to; and it's nothing to be ashamed of. It happens to so many people! No matter how good you are at reading people, sometimes they just surprise us. It happens to me often! As far as wanting a relationship, at least you are very clear on what you want; so try and think of a way to maybe go in that direction. Make a list of the things you want to try and do in order to maybe find that relationship - or new friendships or new co-worker relationships (go to work parties, join community clubs, volunteering at your favourite causes). Those things will definitely get you out there and talking to new people. You might not find a relationship, but you might make more friends. And I'm sure those new relationships - even just talking to people and getting involved in things you like - will make you feel better about yourself. [/QB][/QUOTE]

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