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Member # 50014
posted 07-28-2011 01:10 AM
I'm on my period and my vaginal walls are shedding and releasing tissue built up etc. My aunt and others in family think that there is something 'dirty' about it--and that I'm dirty when I'm on my period. I asked them where I should trash "it" since I didn't see a trashcan in the bathroom and they freaked out. I didn't have any blood etc on my hands, but they told me to wash my hands, refused to "hug" me, etc.
I think in this particular case, I realize that it comes from certain unexamined religious ideas and religious laws--- but it can be so disheartening when people near and dear to you have such belief systems. I did tell them it's just my body and natural and nothing to be shamed off, and they compared it to urine and solid wastes that my body produces. I don't think there is anything that 'wrong' about either urine or wastes either, even if I think being hygenic about them is very important. Eitherway, it's kind of sad and disheartening...
Member # 49582
posted 07-28-2011 03:10 AM
I know what you mean about nearest and dearest having weird belifes. Does your aunt have a period? It must be really awful to feel that way about yourself if se does.
Member # 41657
posted 07-28-2011 07:08 AM
Actually, urine is pretty clean anyway, sure I wouldn't like someone to pee and then not wash their hands and touch my food, but a tiny little bit of pee on their hands would be highly unlikely to harm me. Faeces you have to be a lot more careful with, though I agree with you that when people equate the importance of good hygiene when it comes to poo with a moral validation of the idea that one should feel ashamed of and utterly disgusted by one's bodily functions, that's ignorant and harmful.
Member # 50014
posted 07-28-2011 07:42 AM
I agree. And the whole idea that I have something 'harmful' in my body if I am on my period..something 'dirty' 'impure' about me. I'm glad that I don't think that way know, but I was taught to think that way first. =(
my aunt is post-menopause so she doesn't have a period, but likely she grew up in a culture/environment/suscribes to beliefs that say that 'GOD' wuldn't let you touch or pray to him while you are on your period. I remember questioning this as a child, but never getting an answer.
Member # 69019
posted 07-28-2011 05:44 PM
This is horrible
The period is a gift! Without it there would be no babies. If it were my aunt I'd tell her this. Its great your not letting their ideas make you feel bad about yourself.
Member # 46161
posted 07-29-2011 03:23 PM
For the sake of anatomical accuracy, it is the uterine lining that is shed during menstruation, not the vaginal walls.
It is a shame your family feels that way about a basic bodily function. I guess it just helps to remember that the way they feel about things is not the way you have to feel about things.
Member # 50014
posted 08-05-2011 12:59 AM
at JanieJones, thanks for the correct. I mean the blood vessles lining my vaginal walls
but for the sake of brevity, i said vaginal walls. however, great correction. i can only imagine how someone who isn't all that familiar might read that