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Member # 1412
posted 03-16-2006 10:43 AM
I just wanted to know if anybody has had this happen to them, they find themselves oddly attracted to someone NOT their type.
I stay with my friend a couple of days a week. She lives with her boyfriend, and his cousin (who'll we'll call Ed). My friend and her boyfriend tryed to set me up with Wd when I first met him (about 3 months ago) but he said I wasn't his type, and the feeling was mutual. We teased each other, gave each other lots of crap. He was absolutley NOT my type either. So here I am 3 months later...hes acting a little bit like he likes me, and I have found that he has strangely grown on me. I think I like him. And now I am confused, becuase all we did was tease each other for 2 months...and now BAM! Has this happened to anyone else? [ 03-16-2006, 10:45 AM: Message edited by: ~You*Know*Who~ ]
Member # 3
posted 03-16-2006 11:12 AM
You know, "types" are kind of an iffy thing to begin with, since how someone looks is only a small part of who they are, and sexual attraction is but one part of a relationship. Plus, "types" tend to be about physical ideals, or about associations to past partners: in other words, about things that have little to do with current relationships, anyway.
You know, the love of my life and I are NEITHER of each other's most typical "types" -- heck, in my case, he's a different gender than my strongest attraction, so -- and yet, we go kapowey for one another more than either of us ever has for anyone else. Go figure. Plus, you'll find as life goes on, that, if you're growing, if you're really relating to people, that your "type" either changes a lot, or broadens pretty greatly.
Member # 22756
posted 03-16-2006 01:11 PM
I agree with Miz S. By thinking there's a certain "type," we limit the number of people we approach (or let approach us) for dating or even just friendship.
I had a similar experience with my current boyfriend. The first time I met him (at school), I thought he was macho and blockheaded. Two years later we ran into each other again. He looked totally scruffy and was a smart aleck. Not my "type," but he flirted with me like mad and I felt drawn to him. He later told me that he never expected to be attracted to a biracial girl from the east coast! Things haven't worked out the way either of us expected, but we've broadened our horizons, which is important by itself. [ 03-16-2006, 01:16 PM: Message edited by: kitka ]