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Member # 9489
posted 08-12-2002 06:45 PM
Lets put it one way,
I enjoy playing online games alot i love reading i cant talk to girls well". I never had a proper girlfriend i have a good friend with all the complete same intrests as me at school but he is mocked and taunted all the time i have been invited to go about with some friends from school but i know they smoke drugs and thing and i do not"! Wish to do this neither does my good friend who honestly needs to get some more courage as its me who sticks up for him all the time and it makes me look silly,=( I am so confused as i feel the good thing would be to stand alongside this friend but it could mean i cant have my own social life and so so can anyone post me some helpfull advice???
Member # 8067
posted 08-12-2002 07:58 PM
It sounds as if you feel you have to make a choice between the friend who shares your interests, and being popular with and not "looking silly" to the other people who don't share your interests so much.
Ultimately, you're the only one who can decide who you want to hang out with. However, here's my 2 cents (from experience):
There is nothing wrong with being a geek
At school, it's very easy to end up thinking that your classmates' opinions determine your worth as a person - and teenagers can be very harsh on "geeks", or "weirdos", or "freaks", or any of the other labels kids like to pin on any kid who is even slightly different.
But the truth is that when you're finally out in the big wide world, it doesn't matter half as much. You can find other geeks to hang out with. There are plenty of people out there who love online games and reading. There are geek girls who like geek guys. Adult social lives don't have to conform to school rules about who's "in" and who's "out".
(And some of us firmly believe that it's the "different" people who get to have the really interesting lives).
So when you're thinking about whose opinions matter to you, remember: high school is not the whole world
Member # 8696
posted 08-12-2002 08:43 PM
Logic girl had some really good advice. High school is NOT the world, and kids there can sometimes be pretty cruel to whoever doesn't fit their definition of "normal".
Please PLEASE don't change yourself just to please somebody else. You read books and use the 'net because you enjoy it, right? In that case, it is a part of who you are, and therefore
nobody has the right to tell you that it is not cool. So stay true to yourself and don't go changing for anybody.
From the sounds of it, you know what to do about your friend. Remember, that if you stick up for them now, when you get out of school and are living in the real world, you'll both be firmer friends and stronger for the treatment you endured.
Member # 8696
posted 08-12-2002 08:57 PM
And while you're here, you may like to check out these other thought-provoking threads:
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Member # 8472
posted 08-13-2002 07:16 AM
People call me a geek/nerd/whatever, and I'm proud of it, who do they come to when they need help?
Member # 9502
posted 08-13-2002 12:12 PM
I just read your topic, and it's sad to hear how people label others like that. You know what? Alot of fellow teenagers love to use the internet, not just "geeks", and do you realize how awesome it is to find a guy who ACTUALLY LIKES TO READ!!! I don't consider myself a geek, but me and a few others just don't try to fit into a clique, so we don't necessarily "belong" to anyone. I believe that's the way to go. Be yourself and ONLY yourself, and maybe some others will admire your courage? You just may have some observers you know. It's wonderful that you stick up for your friend like that. i think it shows the person you are inside. I hope you'll try to follow everyone's advice and just be true to yourself. Like another person said, high isn't life, and before you know it, it'll all be over. Have faith! Peace.
Member # 568
posted 08-13-2002 04:48 PM
what's wrong with being a geek anyway? it just means you've got a quirky sense of humor, quirky interests, and you're just a little bit different from the throbbing masses at the mall. give me geekiness, or give me death. or not. *shrug*
anyway, Larkins, don't sell out. don't sell out yourself to "fit in." no one ever fits in anyway. even the Prom Queen herself probably stresses about whether her friends like her, or if she's cool. Peer pressure is a very common thing during adolescence.
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Member # 1412
posted 08-13-2002 10:15 PM
You dont have to do drugs if you do hang out with these people you know. Go and hang out. Dont do drugs. And as for sticking up for your friend, continue to do that, it sounds like he needs a good friend like you!
Member # 7467
posted 08-13-2002 10:23 PM
i don't think sticking up for your morals is dumb or lame in any way.
by the way, lots of people (yes, including girls) LIKE the title "geek". in fact, i bought a postcard once (that is currently taped to my computer desk) that says in huge letters "I LOVE DORKS". because i do.
so keep that chin up!
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Member # 5578
posted 08-13-2002 10:37 PM
I think it's pretty neat to find a guy who likes to read and do things he enjoys. You don't find too many of them around my school.
And I don't think anyone knows why exactly people follow the crowd.
But I do know that it's great to finally meet an intelligent person who is proud of that, because remember: you're not going to be seeing many of these people after high school, anyway. Think now and you're thinking about your future.
People call me "nerd, freak, geek, weird, etc." all the time but like some quotes say, "You laugh at me because i'm different. I laugh at you because you're all the same."
So do what you're doing and someone will come along. Don't worry.
Member # 1412
posted 08-14-2002 09:01 PM
Geeks not a bad thing, if you dont MAKE it a bad thing. Yeah, so youre a "GEEK". Be proud of it and you have nothing to be ashamed about.
Member # 7667
posted 08-15-2002 02:23 PM
Those popular people, I call them the "golden children", there are so few of them. It's a very small club, you have to be rich, pretty, athlectic enough to join. Most people aren't. They don't let you join the club. You can dump you're friend and tag after them, but it won't help, you'll just lose a good friend. Celibrate "Geek Chic", be proud of what you are. It isn't going to help much in high school, but high school is a short time and after it ALL the rules change. If you're not popular and sucessful with girls now, it doesn't mean you never will.
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Member # 5578
posted 08-15-2002 04:12 PM
quote: Originally posted by mingo: Those popular people, I call them the "golden children", there are so few of them. It's a very small club, you have to be rich, pretty, athlectic enough to join. Most people aren't. They don't let you join the club.
Haha. *Still laughing*. That's so cute.
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Member # 6829
posted 08-31-2002 10:56 PM
You are who you are, and the true you is always the best, not to mention always the more interesting....and there is *NOT* a single thing wrong with being a "geek", I have several friends who would probably fall under that stupid label, and they're still really nice, and cool people. Be safe, smart, and who you want to be. and most of all, have fun! don't care what other people think, or what the "norm" is about. diversity is whats fun about living!
Member # 4571
posted 08-31-2002 11:41 PM
You say "geek" like its a bad thing...
I'm a geek. I'm proud of it. Most of my friends are geeks. They are proud of it. My boyfriend is not really a geek but he loves the fact that I can install my own CD drives.
My friends and I understand jokes about UNIX. We laugh hysterically when told that "a clean room is a sign of a broken computer." You get the picture. So be proud of who you are and don't change. Because after highschool, none of it will matter anyway.
Member # 9782
posted 09-01-2002 12:37 PM
I'm a geek for sure and I married a guy who thought he was as geeky as you can get. I think he's great!!!!!! We talk endlessly about computers (he builds them, I program) and we can lay in bed for hours each reading our books and discussing them.
And I agree - the biggest thing to hit me after high school was the realization that regardless of how painful my geekbashing experience there was - it SO doesn't matter in the real world. And the facts are - geeks usually make more money than the jocks wind up making!!! LOL
Keep your head up. You sound great to me!
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Member # 8384
posted 09-01-2002 01:16 PM
i love geeks. i am a geek. im a total geekwad. and im damn proud.
my boyfriend is a geekwad. and he's proud. he reads, he writes...we are both in band. hee hee. well anyways, the whole "i wear glasses, im smart, i read, i plan to study molecular science" is soo my idea of THE perfect guy. trust me there are girls out there who probably like you just the way you are. and as for your friend stick up for him. we geeks must stand together!!!
~*your winning me over with everything u say...you rip my heart right out...and when i let you closer i only want you closer...you rip me apart...
[This message has been edited by SirenRose (edited 09-01-2002).]