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Member # 48014
posted 11-09-2011 05:42 PM
I find that during certain times during my cycle, I find my attractions change. Around mid-cycle, I find that I'm more attracted to men, but around the beginning of my cycle, I want to be with a woman. It's really confusing! I go with "queer" for right now, basically because I don't know what to call myself. What gives? Have any other female-bodied individuals experienced this?
Member # 3
posted 11-09-2011 05:47 PM
Well, either way, I hear you expressing that you are capable of being attracted to men or women. So, that sounds a lot like bisexuality or pansexuality to me, or just plain "queer" if that feels better to you.
Can't say as a queer person I've ever noticed a pattern like that myself, but as a sexuality geek, that's pretty fascinating to me!
Member # 48014
posted 11-09-2011 06:15 PM
I guess I just find that I have trouble accepting it, you know? I actually have a bit of a fear of being straight because I don't want to get funneled into being heteronormative, and I'm aware of that bias and so I don't trust in my queerness, especially because it can be a little...flaky, cycle-wise? I know that I'm generally more sexually attracted to men and romantically attracted to women, and that's something I have trouble processing. It's uncomfortable and tough and it hurts, but I think I just need to keep reminding myself that my sexuality is legit, and maybe find some people who feel similar to me.
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Member # 60751
posted 11-09-2011 06:16 PM
Haven't noticed this myself, but I've certainly heard female-bodied people say that they are attracted to one type of man at one point in their cycle and to another type at another point, or that their feelings of attraction are different in kind, not only in degree, at different points in the cycle. So it kind of makes sense that as a female-bodied bisexual person you would have that shift.
Member # 20094
posted 11-09-2011 06:29 PM
I haven't noticed any correlation between my attractions and my cycle, but I do definitely have periods of time where I'm more attracted to one gender over others. (Possibly that's why it took so long for me to figure out my own orientation - I've always been attracted to men pretty consistently, but my attraction to women fluctuates a LOT. Sometimes it's really strong, other times it's barely there.)
Member # 88286
posted 11-23-2011 02:53 AM
I know how you feel. I haven't payed attention to the specific weeks much, but my sexuality definitely changes with my cycle. I know that while I'm on I'm attracted to guys, and then, the week after I like women. It's so odd, and it makes it really confusing. I've gone with "not straight" for now.
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Member # 44338
posted 11-23-2011 04:06 PM
I haven't experienced being more attracted to men versus women throughout my cycle. I have, however noticed that the coming of my period wildly influences my sex drive.
Either of those things could possibly be occurring or be influenced by the fact that hormone levels are constantly changing throughout one's cycle. It could also be something altogether different.
Member # 50226
posted 12-18-2011 11:22 PM
I have noticed the same thing. I am emotionally and physically attracted to both men and women, but I seem to go through phases. Sometimes I am only interested in men, sometimes only women, and most of the time somewhere in between. It definitely seems to correlate with my cycles, but I have been so preoccupied with studying and work that I haven't really tried to see what correlation there is if there is one. That is so interesting to see that someone else has experienced that too.
As for what to call yourself. I have considered myself bisexual because it feels like the best explanation for me, but queer, fluid, etc. Whatever feels more comfortable for you.
Member # 56775
posted 02-05-2012 08:29 PM
quote: Originally posted by ruddy_duck: Haha, thanks I guess I just find that I have trouble accepting it, you know? I actually have a bit of a fear of being straight because I don't want to get funneled into being heteronormative, and I'm aware of that bias and so I don't trust in my queerness, especially because it can be a little...flaky, cycle-wise? I know that I'm generally more sexually attracted to men and romantically attracted to women, and that's something I have trouble processing. It's uncomfortable and tough and it hurts, but I think I just need to keep reminding myself that my sexuality is legit, and maybe find some people who feel similar to me. Hey there duck, I get exactly what you mean. I'm in a similar boat myself, especially with the not wanting to be straight and knowing that that feeling might mean that you're..for lack of a better term..."faking" your woman-liking feelings. (That was what you meant right? sorry if I misinterpreted.) I also am the same way with being sexually attracted to men and romantically attracted to women, although within the past few days my feelings have begun to change a little in that I feel that the woman's body is becoming more attractive to me...but again, that feeling fluctuates, although if it's with my cycle or not I'm not sure.
I know that personally, I'm not comfortable just letting my feelings be, as in I'd rather have something to define me, not to use to tell others, but so I understand myself well you know? So I'm not sure what you are, or me either, especially because of the biased feeling and worrying that that is interfering with knowing what my real orientation is (especially since I only started having bisexual feelings about a year and a half ago)