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Member # 3
posted 06-30-2011 11:53 AM
This is one of a few threads we've added to help those of you who are often dealing with similar issues -- or aren't, but are members of this one broad group of sexual orientation and want to connect, even in places you're not the same -- but perhaps not seeing each other in one place on the boards to know you can connect and talk together. We keep seeing some users who it seems like would SO benefit from talking together, but due to the business of the boards, probably don't realize are here to talk to.
This one is for anyone who is or feels they are asexual (or nonsexual) or aromantic. IMPORTANT: What this thread is NOT for is anyone who does not feel or identify in those ways, but who is curious about people who do and wants to interview them in any way to satisfy their curiosity. This is a peer support thread for people who are sure or pretty darn sure they are or feel these kinds of sexual identities. Thanks!
Member # 94442
posted 02-05-2012 04:56 PM
Wow, this thread is empty- save for Heather's introduction post; it makes me wonder whether I'm the only asexual here, or if other Aces have not seen this post.
I suppose I shall start this thread off... After going through a number of sexual identities, none of which seemed to fit, I think I've finally discovered what I believe is to be my proper identity- romantic asexual. I've always known that heterosexual or homosexual have never fit for me even though, at one point, I've described myself as such and even went through the identities in between- bisexual and pansexual. However, sex has never been a concept that I've found to be tasteful or something that interests me. I do not yearn for, nor care to have a sexual relationship with someone; I would much rather have a close relationship with someone on an emotional and intellectual level. Only recently I've been beginning to discover that asexuality is something that I can identify with; in the past I've often feared labeling myself as such because I thought the identity implied loneliness; it is not the case however since there appears to be a strong community that I can rely on, and I still have the same possibility as anyone else in finding a partner. Come out, fellow Aces! [ 02-05-2012, 04:59 PM: Message edited by: AsexyLogic ]
Member # 95393
posted 03-27-2012 10:15 AM
I am aromantic as well as asexual. I've felt a lot of/gone through what Asexylogic has described in their post up above ^^^ Though I can't say sex doesn't interest me, I can definitely say sex with other people doesn't. I used to struggled with this aspect of my sexuality a lot and only very recently came to terms with it. I find members of both sex attractive, but even imagining sexual-type touching with either sets off a no-what-are-you-doing-STOP alarm in my brain. I've tried to come out to family and friends multiple times but I've always been brushed off as "too young to decide that now, honey, you'll start feeling those things as you mature a bit." Not sure how to feel about this.