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Member # 47914
posted 07-13-2010 06:47 PM
Few days agomy gf openly spoke to me about her Bisexuality. And I'm totaly confuse about it. We have been together for a very long time, we just move together not too long ago. I always new she is extremly hyperactive on sex and really open, but I have never imagine she was fully Bisexual (eventhough se asure me she gave me sings).
Now, this confusion is not related to what we feel about each other. I'm really open and in theory this revelation do not change anything in the emotional-spiritual realm. But few things have arose that is making me really unassy about this whole deal. A- The whole idea of her bisexuality have promt an exaltation in my sexual diseres for her, the idea over exites me for being a fantasy hte idea to enjoy sexual relationship with two women at the same time, but it has never been with her. This time I do have 100 times more fantasies about it with her that she is driving me sexually insane toward her. Her acceptance has brought passion back to the relationship. We feel more closer to each other. B- this creates a secondary problem, I'm extremly jelouse of her becuase of this. Dealing with other guys competion it's eassier for me base one my own understanding of the male behavior, but with another women seduction is something I can't compete. I afraid she will go with a woman to fullfil her bisexuality as part of her process of fully acceptance (she had had strong crashes on women and have look for other women, before meeting me, for sexual intentions) so I don't really know how strong is her sexual desire to fulfill her bisexuality and how weak is her self control and her value of the realtionship. I'm amore fraid of the whole process of acceptance than her own bisexuality. C- This put another problem, her diseres are maching my fantasy if we do it together, but we both know that will affect dramactricly our relationship. I don't feel sexually/emotionally mature enough to handle a third person in the pot. Not even for a casual encouter. At the same time, if that ever happens, she is not ok to be a full share of the experience.I feel in desvantage, I feel her bisexuality have turn the ballance on her side. What I know is the extreme respect, love, and dedication we have to each other, and there is a strong bond built after so many years together. But knowing Human condition, sometimes our desires and our frustrations can makes us slip. How do we balanece sexual desires and extremely sexual hyperactivity(she is Scorpio, I'm Taurus BTW) with love, respect and loyalty.? Where is the thin line and how to avoid crossed it? Also, how much chances do I have now of her be more secure and open of her own sexuality to change her mind in our entires relationship? I defenetly need some guience here. Thanks
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