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ragdollxxbeauty
Member # 19134
posted 09-14-2005 05:44 AM
recently, I've realized that I am very much physically attracted to guys, but emotionally attached to girls. thus, when i enter a relationship with a guy, it's only physical; somehow, i can not connect with them emotionally. with girls, however, i do have a desire to be sexually intimate with them, but my feeling to be more close to them emotionally is stronger. for example.
i hung out with my old friend that i havent seen in months (a girl). the more we talked, the more i wanted to stay with her. i was completely happy being with her. for the first time in my life, i thought, "i would do anything to keep her happy." i have never felt this way for a guy before. this surprised me, but it didnt creep me out because it felt....right.
i am beginning to think i am bisexual--which isn't a big deal for me--but i am still quite confused of my sexuality. has anyone felt physically attracted to guys, but more emotionally attached to girls? and does this mean i am bi? any feedback would be great.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 09-17-2005 10:07 PM
Remember that these things are fluid, and also may not only shift some as you get older, but with each different relationship.In other words: give it time. It's no rush, and this stuff takes time.
And yep: it's pretty normal for people to be all over the continuum with this stuff, at certain times in their lives, or overall. Too, friendships and sexual relationships DO tend to differ, and that's especially the case per emotional connection when some of that is still very new.
Might you be bisexual? Well, if you feel sexual or romantic attraction to both sexes to some degree, yep. Does it matter, if you determine you are, that you have greater emotional connection with one gender and greater sexual connection with another? Nope: that's okay.
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ragdollxxbeauty
Member # 19134
posted 09-18-2005 04:16 AM
thank you miz scarlet! i have another question..is wanting to be the opposite sex a normal thing among bisexuals, or any sexual orientation? i find myself imagining myself as a guy a LOT of times, and sometimes it kinda freaks me out since this has never happened before.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 09-18-2005 11:26 AM
Sexual orientation and gender identity aren't the same thing.In other words, feeling any gender dysphoria, or wishing you were the other gender, isn't about sexual attraction to a given gender or about bisexuality. That's about gender identity, and no, to my knowledge, that is no more or less common among bisexuals than it is among anyone else.
fonz
Member # 25706
posted 10-11-2005 02:41 PM
Em . . . short anser - YES!!!!! I blame it on limited experience with boys and going to an all girls school. im not gay, and no im not homophobic either, i just love people for who they are, or i try to anyway. im only human.My connection with my friens is a good thing by i know what kind of relation ship we have and what we are both comfortable with. thats it.
Mophead
Member # 7
posted 10-11-2005 05:56 PM
Short answer to which question?
fonz
Member # 25706
posted 10-12-2005 01:01 PM
woops! ya sorry. guess there wasnt really a question there but just wanna say i totally get where the person who posted this is coming from, i feel exactly the same and its good to know im not alone.
daria319
Member # 19692
posted 10-20-2005 10:20 AM
I completely understand. Generally, I'm not physically attracted to guys. It's mostly emotional. I'm more physically attracted to girls, but I can't really connect with them emotionally. So many of them seem irrational, impatient, and downright bitchy sometimes. I can't stand myself when I'm like that, much less another girl.
fonz
Member # 25706
posted 10-22-2005 04:43 PM
Cool!!! I guess your the opposite of me then girls can be bitchy but at least they show their feelings (generally speaking and from my own experience) . . . more than guys.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 10-22-2005 05:08 PM
Let's please avoid gender/sex stereotyping here.People of ALL genders can be bitchy: in fact, the bitchiest person I know -- and lemme tell you, he celebrates it in himself -- is a guy. People of all genders can be emotionally expressive, too. No gender has a monopoly on a personality type or a given sort of behaviour, and for the most part, sceience has borne out tha most behaviour is learned, anyhow, making sex, and certainly gender, a moot point when it comes to most behaviours.
Also remember that as you get older, your experience with people will change a good deal so long as you expand your world some: not only will you have more experiences with more people, but people as they grow tend to become much more complex.