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Member # 685
posted 10-12-2001 05:01 PM
Ok. I know so many people ask this exact question on the board... but I fear that I am bi. I know, I know.. It's nothing to be afraid of.. But I don't want to be. I have nothing against homosexual or bisexual people, but I believe it's wrong. But I find that pornography that has girls rather than guys turns me on more, and I fantasize about being with other girls. My boyfriend and I even sometimes fantasize with each other, and we talk about girls. Am I weird or what?
I know the pieces fit because I watched them fall away Mildewed and smoldering; fundamental differing.
Member # 4764
posted 10-12-2001 05:20 PM
No, you are not weird. Sexual identity can be very confusing, as I'm sure you know. Whether you are bisexual or not, however, is your decision...none of us here can tell you precisely what being "heterosexual" or "bisexual" or whatever means for you. Is it really that important to have a sexual label for yourself? Since you are so confused, it may not help to brand yourself as a certain orientation.
Whatever you decide, who you are attracted to is not inherently wrong.
Member # 406
posted 10-12-2001 07:57 PM
And, I should probably mention that many straight people fantasize about the same sex, and many straight people like porn with the same sex in it too. Many straight people have even had a sexual/romantic relationship with the same sex, and still identify as being heterosexual, because primarily that's what they are.
You shouldn't be afraid of something that's just a part of you. But, you can always hold back any feelings you have for women and only have relationships with men, but, you could be missing out on some really great people.
Only you can figure yourself out babe.
Brittany Scarleteen Advocate This person is a natural product. The slight variations in color and texture enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects.
Member # 2651
posted 10-13-2001 06:50 PM
Don't you think it could be possible to be attracted to the same sex because you want to be like the person who you are attracted to. Like...maybe that person posesses qualities that you like and wish YOU could posess. Or maybe people like to watch porn and focus on the same sex because THAT'S what they'd like to be doing....THAT'S how they'd like to act. Who knows
Member # 5317
posted 10-13-2001 09:29 PM
Though it looks like you've considered this, I'm going to point it out for the benefit of future lurkers...
Remember that it is possible to love someone without having any sexual desire for them. I am attached to some of my friends merely because I admire their knowledge, resourcefulness, and weirdness. (Pink pleather trenchcoat!)
Personally, I choose to wear no label, so nobody can associate me with their misconceptions about that label.
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I don't use the term "straight". It implies its opposite is "crooked".