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Member # 95913
posted 07-27-2012 03:24 AM
So, for once, i'll be *moderately* on topic.
a few months ago, I began toying with the idea that I might be bisexual, however I'm having alot of conflicting feelings. >It seems to be a greater taboo for a male to be bisexual than a female. >Even my bisexual friends (both male and female) do not want to lift a finger to help me. >It seems odd to me to be challenging such an ironclad belief (And I challenge gender stereotypes already watching My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic) I know that human sexuality is a total grey area, regarding situational and internal stimuli and things such as pressure and religion. What totally puzzles me, is that I have an idea *some of the time*, those times being hanging out with my bi friend Skyler; we like to sit on eachother's laps and cuddle like a boyfriend and girlfriend do, maybe even a kiss on the cheek, or a playful slap but he and I have known eachother for YEARS so is that just the camaraderie acting or is there an attraction? (this being said, I have brought up the subject with him but he avoids it like a minefield.) Other times, like when i'm hanging around people who know they are straight and have a girlfriend, and I myself have even been in a hetero relationship and loved the hell out of it. i'm usually the person who gives the best SitRep in my "circles", but this Situation has me totally disarmed, I have no idea what i'm doing and I have no idea how to be sure what I am. [ 07-27-2012, 03:37 AM: Message edited by: Arthur Lexington ]
Member # 91788
posted 07-27-2012 08:40 PM
There are no "rules" in regards to how one defines their sexuality. You get to identify as whatever you feel comfortable with. If you feel that bisexuality is a label that you like, feel comfortable in, and is suitable with, then by all means feel free to identify that way. However, if you are unsure right now and want to take some time to explore your sexuality, that is perfectly okay too. Do whatever you feel best for yourself right now, and don't be in a hurry to assign yourself a label if you are unsure. It's alright to be unsure. Many people are unsure of their sexual identity at some point, due to the fact that sexuality is fluid. Remember, you get to identify as whatever YOU feel comfortable with.
Member # 56822
posted 07-28-2012 06:44 AM
In fact, a person's sexuality in never exactly the same as anyone else's. As I like to say...
"unique is normal, normal is weird, weird is good"! You are unique, normal, weird and good, all at once! Even though it can sometimes affect you, when people dislike the unique "you", that is primarily their issue, not yours. Best wishes! [ 07-28-2012, 06:45 AM: Message edited by: WesLuck ]
Member # 79774
posted 07-29-2012 09:15 PM
Arthur, I wonder if you've seen these articles and if they might be any help to you.
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/gaydar/the_bees_and_the_bees_a_homosexuality_and_bisexuality_primer http://www.scarleteen.com/article/gaydar/q_is_for_questioning http://www.scarleteen.com/article/gaydar/living_without_labels