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Member # 14963
posted 10-02-2003 11:38 PM
I'm a 17-year-old straight girl. My boyfriend of about 4 months told me a few days ago that he is bisexual - but not in those words. I went to his house and he sort of said it in a way that gave me the idea, but I was slightly puzzled as to what exactly he meant...so I asked him on Messenger what he was talking about, and essentially got confirmation. I am perfectly fine with this, however it has given me a lot to wonder about. All my questions are essentially 'nosy' questions - like who else knows, and when he found out, etc. etc. I was just wondering how appropriate would it be to ask him anything further about it? I definitely do not want to act bitchy about it, or make him feel uncomfortable...I love him very much. I have to add that I am 17 and he is the first boyrfriend I have ever had - first person I asked out, and first person I ever kissed. Ever since he told me about it, I've had a strange mix of feelings, nothing negative; in fact I feel slightly aroused...but I was just wondering what everyone else thinks, especially considering I am relatively inexperienced? Should I do something, or should I just drop the subject? Ahh!!
Member # 182
posted 10-02-2003 11:55 PM
If he seems open to talking about it then feel free to talk. It sounds like he had some difficulties comming out, which is expected as he didnt know how you might have reacted. It seems like you are very open minded, which can make comming out a lot easier.
If you want to ask him questions, I would first ask him how comfortable he is talking about it, if he is comfortable at all. Make clear that your intentions are not to judge, but to understand him better.
It is basically up to him if it is appropriate to talk about it or not. Chances are, since you have been understanding thus far, that he will feel comfortable with talking about it. Heck, its probably something he has been wanting to get off his chest for a while.
Hope that helps ya.
Member # 5822
posted 10-03-2003 12:56 PM
It's natural that you're curious, of course it is, that's nothing to be ashamed of.
I'm sure your boyfriend will let you know if he's uncomfortable with any questions, but he my be delighted you're taking an interest.
You seem to be very lucky to have someone who trusts you as much as your boyfriend does.
Ask your questions, but use your common sense as well.
Member # 14963
posted 10-04-2003 11:53 PM
Thanks for all your help, guys. We talked and everything is super. Thanks again!