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Member # 6514
posted 01-25-2006 06:42 PM
If this isn't the appropriate place to be, I apologize. I know that me and my husband aren't in the best place right now. I am staying with a friend while he is staying at the house, and he is leaving for Iraq in the next week. I haven't had any contact with him for the last week or so. I'm not trying to sound defensive or mean or anything but, just because I am having a lot of problems of my own right now doesn't mean that I should stop posting. Ok, now that may seem really mean but it's not. As soon as my husband leaves for Iraq I will be making the proper changes that need to be changed and get the hell out of this.
I love this site so much and I feel for a lot of these posters on so many levels that it hurts sometimes. I'm trying hard to give them my best advice (it may not be accurate some of the time) and help them through it.
I do sincerely appreciate all the advice that has been given to me, and I have put a lot of thought into it. I'm trying to do better. I've sold our animals, started packing what I have with me, and have made a few phone calls with housing.
My point is that I'm not going to let my personal life get in the way of my life on ST. I have been very grateful for all that you guys have done for me, really, I have. Pretty soon I am hoping that I can put it all behind me and try and start a new life. In the meantime.. is it still ok if I keep posting? I'd still like to be able to express my opinions....
[This message has been edited by BiLLaBaBy017 (edited 01-25-2006).]
Member # 27180
posted 01-25-2006 07:19 PM
hi ashley. How are you and the dogs doing?
Member # 3
posted 01-25-2006 08:31 PM
Of COURSE it's fine for you to keep posting: I wouldn't dream of penalizing someone for being abused, and for dealing with the long slog often involved with working one's way out of that, healing from patterns of abuse.
The only reason I said anything was -- not knowing your current status, and us having been worried since your last posts and not hearing from you since -- out of concern for you, and worry that some more avoidance was going on. When we're dealing with someone who, based on the information they've given us, may be endangering their own life with avoidance, we're going to have concerns about enabling that in any way.
I'm insanely glad you're taking steps to get out of this situation, to say the least. And the day that I read you post putting all accountability on your abuser, instead of making it a "we" issue, I absolutely promise to do a jig on tabletop. Heck, I'd even film it for posterity if you liked.