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Member # 3
posted 07-30-2013 12:35 PM
If you read here at all, you'll know that a lot of people have a lot of ideas about what pregnancy is like. You may or may not also know that often, many of them are not at all reflective of what most people's actual experiences of pregnancy are like: for instance, people who are a few months into pregnancy have huge changes going on with their bodies, so not noticing them is PROFOUNDLY unusual. At the same time, in very early pregnancy, nothing being different at all, save a missed period, is very much the norm.
I'm often curious about where people are getting their ideas of what pregnancy is like from. Television or movies? Sites like Yahoo answers, or sites written by pregnancy healthcare professionals? Books? family members or pregnant friends? family members or friends who have not, themselves, BEEN pregnant? I'd love to hear some of you talk about where you feel like you're getting most of your education and information about pregnancy from, if you'd like to share!
Member # 55254
posted 07-30-2013 09:39 PM
I've gotten most of my ideas of what pregnancy is like from my mom, who has been pregnant multiple times after I was born. She tends to be really open talking about different things that are happening and what it feels like. The most recent time she was pregnant was when I was past puberty, so it was really weird to think that I could have been going through the same thing if I had made different choices with my life.
I think, actually, that having her be pregnant (and have a child) then has had a huge impact on my life. It has made me a lot more careful about being sexually active, as I got to see and experience first-hand how much work being pregnant and having a child was. I got to be present at my sister's birth as well. Except for the fact that I am only familiar with one woman's experience (and everyone is different), I think that was one of the best ways to get accurate and reliable information about what it's like.
Member # 3
posted 07-30-2013 09:56 PM
That's really cool, moon_goddess.
Member # 95598
posted 07-30-2013 10:09 PM
I am the youngest child in my immediate family, but I still grew up around pregnant women. My dad's youngest sister's second pregnancy is actually one of my few clear memories from before the age of six. After her, I watched numerous teachers go through pregnancy, as well as watching the pregnancies of a neighbor couple. Most recently, my oldest cousins have started having kids.
Every one of these pregnancies has taught me that it is not something to be ashamed of (a few were out of wedlock and/or unplanned, though that's not such a huge deal where I live) and can be incredibly rewarding, but, like moon_goddess said, it is hard, hard work. It is something that I know I want to experience in the future, but for now, I know I'm not ready for it.