T O P I C R E V I E W
Heather
Member # 3
posted 03-04-2013 11:55 AM
In other words, you've just gone through this, or are going through this now. Maybe you could access Plan B and used it: maybe you couldn't, or there was no need. No matter what, there's nothing to be done about what's in the past now except to use it to change your future. So, what have you already done, or are you going to do, to change the channel on this so you're not likely to wind up in that spot again? Maybe you've decided you're not going to engage in the kind of sex that presents any risk of pregnancy, or any kind of sex for a while. Maybe you've had a talk with a partner and set firm limits on condom use. Maybe you're getting, or have already obtained, a reliable method of contraception. Maybe you're getting more sex education so you better understand what really does or doesn't present risks, or are working through some life circumstances or issues that were really at the biggest root of your fears. maybe you're doing something else entirely. Whatever it is, how about sharing it here to help give others ideas and give each other some cheerleading and support so that your lives aren't a broken record of pregnancy scares or fears?
MaddleyLove
Member # 102003
posted 03-06-2013 03:26 PM
Well, I thought I might chip in here, seeing as I have been to hell and back with some of my pregnancy scares I think it is important to know that no matter how bad things look now, they can look bleak and lonely and dark and you feel like there's no way out... things WILL get better. They will. Even if its impossible to see at the time, for every dark night there's a brighter day
MaddleyLove
Member # 102003
posted 03-06-2013 03:29 PM
Well, I thought I might chip in here, seeing as I have been to hell and back with some of my pregnancy scares I think it is important to know that no matter how bad things look now, they can look bleak and lonely and dark and you feel like there's no way out... things WILL get better. They will. Even if its impossible to see at the time, for every dark night there's a brighter day
littlemisssunshine92
Member # 104697
posted 03-07-2013 05:14 PM
Yes. Just this past week I watched my 20 year old best friend (who is married.. but still our age!) have a baby. It was honestly so beautiful, I was crying during the birth. A baby is a miracle. So if you think you're pregnant and have opted not to abort it.. Try to see the positive side. It is scary, and honestly telling my mother would be scarier than having the baby to begin with.. But it IS a little miracle. Also.. I have had a talk with my boyfriend. He knows what a toll this scare has/is taking on me and our relationship. He also knows that, before him, I wanted to wait until I was married. Well, he has agreed that it will be best for us to wait until that time. We did use condoms, but I just don't trust them. I cannot get over that 2% chance. Birth control pills are not possible for me, medically so that's out. I am lucky to have a boyfriend who loves me and supports my decisions. If the man you're engaging in sex with is worth sharing that experience with.. He should understand and respect you and your body, as well. So, whether you want to abstain from sex or to be adamant about condoms, just speak up and take charge of your sex life.
MaddleyLove
Member # 102003
posted 03-08-2013 05:01 AM
You have got it absolutely right littlemisssunshine92!! I need to take charge of my health and wellbeing xx
Clara Taylor
Member # 101830
posted 03-08-2013 03:48 PM
I just went through the biggest pregnancy scare ever. For over two months I worried incessantly about the possibility of being pregnant and I found myself in such a downward spiral I ended up torn to pieces. I developped bad OCD, my life consisted of running to doctors, ordering blood tests, booking ultrasounds, buying HPTs, foreseeing worst-case scenarios... I couldn't see anything else. I couldn't tell right from wrong or even how irrational I was being. My brain was posessed by one and only overwhelming fear: PREGNANCY. I was so worried I couldn't eat, quickly became severly malnourished (I'd almost pass out whenever I went out), developped alopecia, began drinking everyday as a way of trying to cope with the pain, I couldn't tell anyone in my family and didn't have any friends. All of this is documented in a loooong thread I started in here. Then, slowly, I began to realise how much damage I was causing myself and how I was falling fast in the gutter. I went to see a therapist, it helped, but the biggest help I could get was from myself... I don't know where I found the strenght to, but I managed. I'm still suffering and struggling and cry often but I'm slowly climbing up the well. I ended up realising it wasn't all about pregnancy: there were issues in my life I was not dealing with properly. They were feeding my fear and preventing me from moving on. From the moment I sought help and began to adress them, things got better. And they'll get even better as I'm working my bottocks off on making my life better Three lines of the best advice I can give to ANY girl/woman out there going through a pregnancy scare or not able to get over one: I. Know the truth: test. In whatever way you can to be sure whether or not you are pregnant. Seeing a doctor would be the best thing to do. DO NOT go online asking the e-folks what they think and especially, DO NOT go looking for crazy urban legends about weird pregnancies and women who couldn't find out whether or not they were pregnant. II. If you're still scared, even after you tested negative multiple times/got your period/the doctor said you weren't pregnant, seek a different kind of help. A pregnancy scare can trigger severe anxiety and other mental disorders that will keep you from seeing things clearly and getting back on track. III. Face your fears. They'll always be scary. But the only way to make them go away is to look them in the eye and decide you can bear them. Your fears, in this case, can be of many kinds; fear your family's judgement, fear of losing your significant other, fear of major life changes, fear of heightened responsibility, fear of the physical pain of pregnancy/abortion/birth.... It's awful to think about these but after a while, you'll find yourself thinking "so what? if it has to be, I'll have to bear it." Hope I've helped, hope you all get out of the dark, scary place you are in (and I'm still a little bit there, kind of) and get your life back. Remember, after a big scare and enduring prolongued pain and anxiety, you'll find yourself stronger than you were before.
CSandSourpatch
Member # 95598
posted 03-08-2013 08:59 PM
I went through a bit of a scare a couple of months ago. Even though I knew in my head and heart that there was no possible way that I could be pregnant, I can attest that that little fear takes hold deeply very, VERY quickly, and it just does not let go. Strangely enough, unlike a lot of scares I've heard of, I wanted to take a test so badly just to prove to myself that I was right--that I wasn't pregnant. Of course, the test came out negative, but that didn't stop me from almost collapsing out of anxiety waiting for the proof. (I will say that I wasn't worried after that, but I think that's because I was trying to prove to myself I wasn't pregnant, and from what I gather, there are a lot of scares where the scare-ee is trying to convince themselves they aren't pregnant while simultaneously trying to convince themselves that they are.) I second all of Clara's suggestions, and add one of my own: find someone--a friend, a family member, a significant other, a counselor, ANYONE--who you trust to both try to talk you down when you're anxious, and just be there when you need a shoulder to lean on. Both my boyfriend and my roommate were invaluable sources of comfort--my roommate had gone through a similar scare a few years ago with nobody to support her.
pink35
Member # 107329
posted 04-17-2013 05:12 PM
I am afraid right now about the possibility of pregnancy. I have been told that this is not possible and I have nothing to worry about but I have also been told that it is possible. I was just wondering if I can or can not get pregnant from fingering while my boyfriend may have had some ejaculate or preejaculate on himself. I am not scheduled for my period for another 2 weeks and I am really nervous about this. Can someone please help and give me some advice on this situation?
Heather
Member # 3
posted 04-17-2013 05:17 PM
Hey pink: how about instead of yet again asking the same questions we have made clear many times now have already been answered -- and have asked you, repeatedly, not to keep asking -- you go with the flow of the actual topic of this post? In other words, you've had this scare; NOW what are you going to do about it? Where are you going to go from here? What do you think of some of the strategies other users have contributed in this thread: how about trying some of those?
pink35
Member # 107329
posted 04-17-2013 05:19 PM
okay I apologize.
Heather
Member # 3
posted 04-17-2013 05:23 PM
I've heard you apologize: now I need you to actually stop doing the thing you keep apologizing for. Last warning with this, please take it seriously and pay us and our service that respect.