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Member # 93909
posted 01-31-2012 09:39 PM
My boyfriend and I went out for coffee today, and I spoke to him the night before about how I didnt want to fool around anymore because I feel like that's all it's ever about and I don't want my scares to get worse (anxiety disorder). He agreed, but after we had coffee, he kind of just started fingering me through my leggings once we got back into the car. What started as a goodbye kiss turned into that. He kept asking me to give him a bj, but i was not comfortable doing so, so i kept saying no. At one point, he took out his penis (sorry for being graphic) and took the tips of his thumb, pointer finger and middle finger and touched the base of his penis and stroked his penis a few times. There may have been some precum and I am so scared that it got on the tips of his fingers and he rubbed and fingered me outside my leggings. My leggings never came off at all, and he never ejaculated because I never gave him head. Can I get pregnant from this? I'm literally freaking out right now. My leg is shaking, i'm terrified. Please help? Robin? Heather? Anybody else who has answered me before who's a trusted admin?? Please?
Member # 20094
posted 01-31-2012 09:57 PM
There's no risk from what you've described. If you haven't already, please have a read throug this:
http://www.scarleteen.com/cgi-bin/forum/ultimatebb.cgi?/ubb/get_topic/f/28/t/006958.html Honestly, I'm far more concerned about the fact that your partner doesn't seem to be respecting your boundaries than any potential pregnancy risk. Continuing to ask you for any kind of sex after you've already said no is a big red flag, and says to me that this relationship might not be all that great for you.
Member # 93909
posted 01-31-2012 10:07 PM
There's no risk whatsoever? I'm not supposed to start my ovulating week until February 6, and I'm not supposed to ovulate until around Feb 11 or 12, so any sperm in the precum would die if it got through my leggings before then, right? I'm so sorry, i'm just freaking out right now. And i have another question: when I came home right after, I washed my hands twice and hand sanitized. Then I went to pee and I'm just scared that some type of precum after touching his penis for a few seconds may have transferred onto the toilet paper i used to wipe myself after urinating. Is it even possible to get pregnant like that?
And since this site is a sex ed site, is it appropriate to talk about my feelings about how my bf pressures me to do things? (I really like this site, I feel such positivity and support to overcome my anxiety disorder here on this website. I had a yahoo answers account before, and I was honestly just bashed all the time and made fun of for my worries).
Member # 20094
posted 01-31-2012 10:15 PM
Absolutely no risk. Anytime there's a layer of clothing (or more than one layer) in the way, there really isn't a risk. And the second scenario you're describing doesn't pose a risk either. Pregnancy just doesn't happen like that: you need direct genital to genital contact, or direct contact between semen and your genitals, in order for a risk to exist.
And yes, we can absolutely talk about your feelings regarding your boyfriend pressuring you to do things. I'm so sorry you had a bad experience with Yahoo answers; unfortunately, that seems to be not all that uncommon, but that's definitely not the kind of response you'll get here.