ok right to the point. i've been feeling really depressed lately about my apperance.. i hate looking in the mirror and everytime i do. i feel like crying. i feel so ugly. i've recently gained a few pounds and thats making matters even worse. its getting to the point were im feeling so uncomfortable with myself i even hate when my boyfriend touches me. specially my tummy. i know this all sounds quite stupid but its really bothering me. i dont want to put myself down i want to love my body and myself. but how do i go about on doing so? i used to exercise all the time. and i really enjoy running. but lately ive lost all motivation. i want to feel comfortable in my own body any suggestions? please help. i want to love myself.
Posted by JamsessionVT (Member # 17924) on :
Part of feeling better about yourself is going to come from accepting that our bodies DO change, over time, and being OK with this.
Meanwhile, part of it is also realizing that there is a quite a bit you can do to keep yourself happy, and most importantly, healthy, while still feeling good about your body.
None of what you're saying sounds stupid. Almost all of us go through (or are going to go through) a period in our lives where we are unhappy with how we look.
I get the feeling that you felt badly about yourself even before you gained weight, so maybe you should start with that first. What is it about yourself that you don't like? What do you think caused this change (since it sounds like you were OK before)?
Posted by jamie_dawn (Member # 36166) on :
I feel exactly the same way about myself. I compare myself to friends. It bothers me so much. Then I look at my mom and dad and they are petite people. I get down on myself sometimes I will even lock myself in my room for a few days. I don't have modivation to do anything towards being comfortable with myself. I want to exercise, but I'm embarrassed that someone will see me and judge. I used to be known as the skinny girl, but not anymore. Honestly, everyone is different, it happens. The best thing to do is exercise (like running because you love it) and eat right. Being comfortable in your own skin can be hard. But think of it like this, your family and friends and boyfriend love you just the way you are. If they can love you the way you look, so should you.
hope this helped.
Posted by cherrypie10 (Member # 31895) on :
its just really hard to love the way i am.. my mom is the main reason right now why im feeling this way i believe.. when we go shopping i try things on and she says oh you have gained some weight and you cant wear that.. and she's always pointing out that i've gained weight.. and it really bothers me.. i know i have.. and then she's there picking at me.. and then i see her calling yourself fat and oh i have to lose weight.. when she's the size of a twig.. it just really gets to me.
and yes.. i have felt badly about myself even before i gained a few extra pounds.. i've never really felt comfortable with myself. and i have no idea why. its not like i dont hear good things about me.. i hear all the time im a pretty girl. i just dont see it. nor believe it. i know i see my flaws that most people dont see .. i understand that.. but.. i seriously just want to be happy with who i am.. i just dont feel i will ever be at that point where i feel great about myself..
Posted by LilBlueSmurf (Member # 1207) on :
As Jam said, we all feel like this. I have days too where i get up and i just feel really crappy. I can't get my hair the way i want it, or i have a new zit, or i'm retaining water and feel fat ... It happens to all of us, even your mom !!!
It's all a matter of self talk. When you get up in the morning, try to focus on the good things. So you feel fat today ... But your hair/eyes/whatever looks great.
You may also want to speak to your mom about the way she's making you feel. She may not realize that what she's saying is hurting your feelings.
It is okay NOT to engage other people in talk about self hate ... And someone going on about how they're so fat is self hate. Seriously. It's beneficial for both of you if you just don't.
Have you spoken to anyone (professional) about your body image?
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